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I'm 9 days postpartum and feel so overwhelmed. I keep having feelings of not loving my baby and craving my life before him. I am breastfeeding and I feel like this is also really taking a toll on me, although things have improved over the last few days. I seem to have good parts in the day and then around the same time in the late afternoon, I start to feel really sad and teary. I just want to feel 'normal' again and love the newborn bubble.

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I think it would be best to speak with your GP and they can refer you for additional support. I can only imagine! All the hormones crashing etc. look after yourself.

Youre so freshly postpartum your hormones will be wild, dont worry youll be fine and if youre not feeling better soonish reach out to midwife

Hiya- you can self refer to talking therapies if u feel like having thoughts of harm..and its ALL NORMAL for motherhood journey..It tough! But you're tougher girl-Hang on-there are always good and worst...-just acknowledge it! Its frustrating- exhausting...just know You're doing a great job mama 💕 ❤️

I was the same around the same time of day I couldn't stop crying and felt really anxious. It has evened out now and I feel good, for me it was definitely a combination of my hormone drop and usually feeling anxious this time of year with the seasonal change. Hopefully it evens out for you too but be kind to yourself.

This sounds like postpartum depression. Have you reached out for support?

Speak to your midwife at your next appt or health visitor whichever is 1st.
Yes hormones play a big part but its too easy to blame them when it could be the start of ppd or something. I hope it isnt that but get advice from those that know x

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