Is this a phase or am I majorly failing motherhood?!😩

I think it a leap learning so much and trying to be more inderpendence. It is hard both my twins are in the phase.

You are not alone at all! I don’t think enough is people talk about how hard the 1s are! They are so full of energy and get so frustrated. It’s hard but try and stay as calm as you can and give names for what they are feeling. Give her simple words if you can to use rather. My daughter gets so frustrated when she’s done eating and still strapped into her high chair and I kept saying ‘you finished? You want up?’ to her when she was like this and she now says up and recovers faster and faster from the meltdown. It’s hard all of this and you are not a bad mum at all!! It’s this age, they start to realise they are little people in the world and want things their way and it’s tough to learn it can’t all be your way but it’s a lesson they need to learn. We can get through this! X

I'm in the same boat.
My LG really doesn't like being told no resulting in throwing herself back (in slow motion so she doesn't hurt herself she has banged her head so many times from doing at full force she has learned)
Childminder she doesn't throw a tantrum but gives her evils when she says no.
Also desperate to feed herself but happy for us to pre load spoon for her
She hold out the spoon asking for more.
Sometimes she will pick food up and try and put it on her spoon herself.
You're not alone!