Would you take away movie night as a consequence for 6 year old?

So every Friday we have movie night but my 6 year old pushed another student at school today and received ISS for it. It was over something so little but my 6 year old (currently being evaluated/tested) struggles with managing her anger and frustration & sometimes acts impulsively.. I’m not excusing her behavior at all and regardless of any diagnosis she may or may not receive, I know that does not take away from the fact that she is not allowed to hurt people because she’s angry.

My question is— would you take away movie night as an at home consequence? I sometimes struggle with discipline because I don’t want to discipline her all day but I also don’t want to discipline too little. She of course received consequences at school by having to be in ISS for the remainder of the day which also meant she missed music class, recess, and the classes shaving cream party at the end of the day.

Also, if you vote no— what kind of home consequence would you have? She’s not a bad kid and typically does not set out to purposely hurt people but also when she is mad, she loses all her reasoning/logic skills.

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I think that is a reasonable consequence. At the end of the day it’s not on the school to discipline, and she should know you take it just as seriously. I would just pair it with a role playing lesson. Like you pretend to make her upset and she “acts” like she ls angry. Then give her alternatives of what to do in that moment (walk away, tell an adult, etc) and let her have a little goofy time so it doesn’t feel like a lecture.

But yeah canceling one movie night + provide a way to practice .. sounds great to me. Repeat offenses may mean a different consequence and more practice, but never skip the opportunity to practice handling it better next time! 😊🙏

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I think that's a good consequence. It's not over the top, but it is enough to show that there needs to be change to her behavior.

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It seems like a good consequence to me. She has to understand that you don't get rewards for bad behaviour.

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