Baby No.2

Hello, just curious I seen something earlier of another mums experience about having a second child and experiencing rage towards their first born.

Just wondering if this is fairly common? What’s everyone’s experience with rage and rage towards first born?

With my first I had rage towards the dog and my partner a lot when they would wake the baby a lot, I remember the feeling like it was yesterday and I would feel awful if I had this feeling and less patience towards my first ….

Thinking around a 3 year age gap also so if anyone had any similar age gaps what was your experiences?

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Oh my word i have not heard of this but also had irrational rage towards my husband and dog with my little girl so following for info

I had a 2.5 year age gap and I wouldn’t say rage but I often felt frustrated at him for things like waking the baby from a nap when I knew it wasn’t his fault and he didn’t understand and was really just a baby himself x

I think its normal to feel frustrated I feel frustrated when my 4 year old wakes baby from his naps (on purpose) so i move naps to always upstairs out of his way (this works) so its helped my frustration. (4 year gap)

I had a dog who recently passed. I got very upset with my dog about certain things (ruining nap time by crying at my door) type scenarios.

Definitely feel annoyed and frustrated sometimes but its upto us to try to manage and control it in different ways

Frustration yes, rage, no. They are still your baby and whenever the frustration builds I could still picture him as a wee tiny baby himself. And I have experienced something more akin to rage at the cat!

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