Being cheated on while pregnant

Hi today I was supposed to be getting married to my partner, we have been together for almost two years. We were having a small wedding for now, had been getting everything ready to surprise his family. We have outfits, wedding bands, location, the officiant everything was ready besides the marriage license. Im almost 7 months pregnant and we live with his parents.
About a week ago now I went through his phone and there were more women than I can count. The entire time we’ve been together until just the day before I found the messages he has been adding just about anyone. So many girls asking him for money and him sending it. A few of them money was exchanged for sexual content. A few of them he talked about meeting up with in person.
I went through the phone because I almost caught him over two of the girls and he lied straight to my face about who they were. He told me one was his cousin.
Today was the day we were supposed to be married, 10/26/26. I have called off the wedding and engagement. He knows I know and we have told his parents about the situation. They somewhat minimized it but are on my side entirely. I am staying for now who I try to understand how to navigate this. I have no where to go. I stopped working due to being extremely sick this pregnancy, it’s my first ever and it’s been hard. I have no family or friends I could stay with either. He knows I’m considering leaving but is trying to work through this. How do I navigate this? Is this something anyone can work through?

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Don’t continue a relationship with him. If he could do all that behind your back he never loved you. And he will never love you. I know that sounds harsh but someone who loves you would never do anything to risk losing you. And it clearly wasn’t a one time mistake. This is a repeated pattern. If you take him back, he will go back to what he was doing, he’s just gonna get better at hiding it. And I would not trust his parents either because they raised a man who thinks it’s ok to cheat and lie to you. If they truly wanted to hold him accountable they would tell you to not stay with him and to leave him. Because those are the natural consequences to his actions.

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This is not someone you want to marry. Good on you for calling off the wedding. You should now focus on co-parenting amicably for the sake of your child. But relationship? Nah that ship has sailed.

I would be focusing my efforts on looking for a new place and a job. Would you be entitled to any government housing/assistance?

PS so sorry he put you through all this shit whilst pregnant. What a POS.

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