Absent Family

I am in the exact same boat 2 kids deep now, could have written this myself. I’ve just had to get on with it tbh. My only advice is don’t waste energy on being angry with them because it won’t change anything. Me and my partner havent had a date in 3 years, we cosleep/contact nap too so we didnt even get time at night just the 2 of us to chat until a Year in!

My family are over 2 hours away and would to be more involved and my partners family that are closer are busy with thier lives. What has got me through is going to the local baby group run by the church (which is cheap) and seeing friends. I try and do a couple of things in the week just to break it all up.
My husband also works nights so I just need to find things that distract me I guess.

Same here, only that my family is 2000 miles away and more difficult for them to come over and help, also my mum is helping my brother with his child and I don't mind it as my mum helped with my first child so it's fair. On the other side, my in-laws live 1h away and they can take a train if they don't feel like driving, yet they're no help. When they come over, they're no help and behaved as guests and I'm not willing to entertain. They've seen our first child 4 times in 5 years and only if we go there, so you see why I can't be bothered to entertain them and visit more often than once a year. They live their lives, put their parents in carehomes, travel for the world 5-6 times a year. I thought maybe they don't like me much, but they're the same with my brother in law children and they live 10 minutes walk away, hence I concluded boomers are selfish

This is exactly us expect family live a 5 min walk away 🙃 no advice, just solitary ♥️