Postpartum Body (Rant)

Im having a hard time accepting how my body looks after giving birth, I know the body changes and it takes a while before everything goes back to normal. Before I got pregnant I was recovering from anorexia, I was 105lbs and during my pregnancy I gained 65lbs and when I gave birth I was 170lbs. Im not sure how much I weigh now I believe its between 150-160lbs, Im not so upset that I have gained some weight that was always a goal of mine but I am struggling with how my body looks in general. I just needed a space to rant, I feel like I cant mention this to anyone in my family or friend group because they keep telling me “you had a baby 3 months ago things don’t change that quickly” it feels almost like they are dismissing my thoughts and feelings when I just want someone to understand and validate my feelings.

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I'm right there with you. I'm 3 months pp as well. My husband gets upset with me when I mention how unhappy I am with my weight gain. He seems to think I look amazing, though I don't. For me exercise is key. I think moving and shaping my body to be stronger is how I'm going to work through this.

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i totally get you!
before pregnancy i was close to 100lbs and now i weight around 160lb during my 27th week!
i am not used to this weight gain even though i wanted to gain weight because ive always hated the way my body looked, and now that it’s here that mental part of my brain is still nagging at me! and how to deal with pp i am extraordinarily nervous how my body is going to heal after giving birth since i’ve always had a bad body image especially surrounding my stomach and it’s hard to bring up because wow our bodies are able to create a human life but that doesn’t exterminate how hard it is mentally!
i would say being active is key! doesn’t have ti be a big workout where your shaking afterwards just being active and connecting with your body!

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Your body did something amazing and has just changed priorities for a little bit. Now we are squishy so we are the best and softest place for our baby to sleep and cuddle and we have extra stores so we have reserve energy for them.
Be kind to yourself you won’t stay this shape forever xx

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It’s really hard, a mental roller coaster most days I’d say. I gained a lot of weight during my pregnancy. I’m 4mos pp and had a cry today over clothes. Then I looked at my baby and I think abt how my body stretched and grew and created her and she’s so perfect. It is such a struggle.

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I literally hate my body and get resentful at my son for it. I’m not starting to loose hair too, and I’m fucking over it. Fml

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