Another night of staring at the breast pump I bought...

Another night of feeling inadequate. The mum-guilt of not figuring out breastfeeding is so bad at night.
He stopped latching on day 3, I bought some pumps but pumping makes me miserable so I avoided it and only made about 20 ml a day.
I bought a really expensive pump in hopes it'd help but I've not used it yet, I just stare at it every night, hating myself.
He's drinking around 100ml of formula a feed now. I'm never going to be able to catch up with my supply, and even if I do, he still won't latch. I feel useless.
I know that he is happy/healthy is what is important, but I still hate myself for not being able to do this.

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Have you tried using a nipple shield, my little one will latch for a second then scream but i noticed with a shield she was getting milk, that can also help with building your supply it’ll send signals to your boobs when he needs fed to produce more as you go. Don’t give up you’ve got this ♥️

There are a couple of tutorials on youtube showing how to use the them and how the sizing works. Hopefully that can help you, i only recently started using the nipple shields and i’m nearly a month pp

Don't hate yourself. My first baby was a nightmare to feed and it made me depressed and unhappy for ages before I gave in with breastfeeding. I couldn't understand how some people had it all together and I didn't. Just having had my second and she it textbook for breastfeeding I can say this as its not you, some babies are harder to feed. One thing someone told me was if you look around a room of friends/colleagues do you know who was breastfed? No because they are all fine and healthy. Fed is best. Please look after yourself. Xx

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