Newborn feeding - how much?

Hii all, i’m a FTM and my babygirl is a week old! She weighed at birth 3.78kg (around 8lbs i believe) and at the home check up she lost a good amount of weight nothing to be concerned about! during the nights for the past 2 nights she seems to be unsettled when putting her in her crib, i have tried soothing her, changed her nappies multiple times etc…i am not sure if im underfeeding her or overfeeding her, and if im hurting her by doing so? she’s on 90ml of formula but im not sure if thats too much as she shows hunger cues for more? today i offered 120ml and she drank it all.. essentially i feel like im not sure what im doing!?

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Other people holding baby

How are we dealing with other people holding our babies? I don't want anyone to hold him, if I'm being honest. My MIL broke the cardinal "no kissing" rule when he was less than a month old. Now I don't trust anyone other than my husband and best friend (who's been super understanding because she has her own babies).

My family is making jokes about giving him kisses on his forehead, feet, arms, etc. Since I've been super specific about not kissing his cheeks, mouth, or hands.... Like I just wish people could use some common sense and realize that one, it's super creepy that they can't control themselves or as they say "resist him"... And two, just don't kiss him at all. I'm clearly bothered by it.

I'm latina so I feel like other latinas will understand what I'm going thru. This 💩 is so annoying!!!! Ugh!!!!

I can't do this anymore

My 14 month old doesn't sleep through the night. I can actually count on one hand how many times he's magically slept through.

Tonight he went to bed at 7 woke at 1am. My partner went to sort it but our son just kept waking after transferring. He does this every night. I went in as my partner is now getting mad which I hate so much.

I tried to cosleep but as I layed on the bed he sat up and started smiling at me😭😭 why?!! Please go to sleep. He crawled around the bed for a while then I tried to put back to sleep. I'm rocking I'm bouncing i put him down. And guess what, he wakes crying.

I can't keep doing this. It's now been 2.5hrs and I'm tired. I have work in the morning. This child never sleeps.

I've tried short naps, longer naps, later bedtime,.earlier bedtime, shorter wakes, longer wakes. I just don't get what I'm doing wrong.

I know some babies don't sleep but this is ridiculous. He's slept a handful of times in his life so why is it so inconsistent

Rant over

Are you waking your baby up for feeds past 3 hour mark ?

My baby has regained his birth weight last week and we’re on week 3 now should I let him sleep longer if he wants or wake up every 3 hours ? Right now he feeds every 2-2.3 hours anyway but was wondering what everyone else is doing according to nhs guidelines too

Bedtime advice

My 2 month and I cosleep which I’m happy with for now. I start her nighttime routine between 6-7pm. She goes down at first pretty easily but never stays asleep. I end up spending the next couple of hours putting her back to sleep about 2 or 3 times before she finally goes down. Sometimes it’s because I’ve gone to shower or to eat, but sometimes she wakes out of her sleep even if I’m still there. It doesn’t matter how long I wait before I put her down she still wakes up. Once she’s down She sleeps well I tend to get 3-4 hours, sometimes even 5, it just takes a while for her to get to that point where she stays asleep.

Any advice on what I can do the improve the initial part?

Serious Q - how are you managing to have sex?

Just trying to work out how we can have sex if baby needs to be in same room as us until 6 months? Like I just can’t get in the mood with baby in the room, and I’m too tired right now to be adventurous somewhere other than the bedroom 😅🫣
Doesn’t help my baby will only contact nap in the day… so I’m just curious how others are making it work?

Am I behind…

A few things lol.

So I have an 8 week old and I’m just wondering should I have started them on a routine by now?

I see a lot of people talking about having an evening routine before their baby goes to bed but my baby usually sleeps around the same time regardless so I’ve just been winging it.

Also what stage/ milestones should they be hitting at 8 weeks to 3 months. My baby isn’t currently babbling but I’ve noticed some others are at this stage. What activities can I do in wake windows to help with babbling, crawling etc.

Lastly my baby had the hearing test in the hospital and all was fine, but now whenever I shake a toy with noise they don’t follow the noise, sometimes it looks like they don’t even notice there is a noise right next to them. No real acknowledgment. Is this normal?