Am I behind…

I’ve been thinking the same thing (routine). Our baby is 10 almost weeks and we’ve just followed his eating pattern all the way- every 2/3hrs.

However, I have noticed he will eat and sleep until about midnight/1am if we have a “wind down” around 7pm. So either bath/ change into pjs, feed, cuddles and dinner lights for about 20mins before we leave him in his cot (usually by 8/9ish now 💤🛌)..

What we haven’t achieved yet is a longer stretch of sleep after 1/2am! He is feeding every 2-3hrs but sometimes only very little, so I wonder if maybe he just needs soothing and back to sleep? 🤷🏽‍♀️🥹

Regarding the milestones; I recommend the “Pathways.org” app! It gives you detailed information about this and helpful videos of what you can do to help bubba 🥰🙏🏽

Every baby is different and my son will turn away if he’s overstimulated, so I try again during nappy change 🙃 If you are concerned about babys’ hearing though, contact your GP as I’m sure they won’t turn you away!

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They’re barely on a routine at that age, instagram has made me feel guilty about that because I see mums that seem to have it all figured out but mainly they also have easy babies and they don’t get into a proper schedule until much later and same for sleep that can still be variable until they’re 6 months old or even up to one year old.

I try to have a sort of routine to help but I don’f hyper fixate on it. I do the same things every morning and every night but it’s never at the same time.

So I have a morning routine where I open the curtains so light comes in, I go get clothes for the day for baby, I change him, feed him and then either he’s awake still and I bring him downstairs where he will be on his playmat so I can make a breakfast I never have time to finish and eat or he goes back to sleep sometimes.

Bedtime routine starts with undressing him, changing him, putting night clothes on, owlet sock and sleep sack, white noise on, feed and rock to sleep, but again not always

Newborns do not need a routine I promise you! You are not behind!!

I think people mean they choose to do things in the same order each night eg bath, into fresh pjs, lights dim etc but its not a true routine because timings vary for babies at this age as naps can be 10 mins or 2 hours. This is the one time in your childs life that they dont need a specific routine, when they get older you will get to a point where they have to be home and in bed at a certain time, and will only nap in their own bed at certain times, whereas newborns can fall asleep on the go etc anytime, they can sleep in your arms while you watch tv, you can basically do whatever you want while you hold them so try and embrace that and worry about routines later.

You dont need to do anything, just cuddle and talk to your baby and sing them songs and give them plenty of free time on a playmat so they can kick their legs etc. You dont need to do any activities!