Other people holding baby
How are we dealing with other people holding our babies? I don't want anyone to hold him, if I'm being honest. My MIL broke the cardinal "no kissing" rule when he was less than a month old. Now I don't trust anyone other than my husband and best friend (who's been super understanding because she has her own babies).
My family is making jokes about giving him kisses on his forehead, feet, arms, etc. Since I've been super specific about not kissing his cheeks, mouth, or hands.... Like I just wish people could use some common sense and realize that one, it's super creepy that they can't control themselves or as they say "resist him"... And two, just don't kiss him at all. I'm clearly bothered by it.
I'm latina so I feel like other latinas will understand what I'm going thru. This 💩 is so annoying!!!! Ugh!!!!
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I don’t like my baby being held period let alone having other people hold my baby I feel like if you want to see my kid you don’t need to have her in your arms 24:7
I will say one thing only he is YOUR BABY and at any point you CAN take your child away from someone or tell them NO. You DON’T need a reason. Don’t let the whole mother in law/ family member thing get to you . YOUR BOUNDARIES YOUR BABY !
i just made my partner tell his parents we werent ready and made it a clear boundary that i was going to be holding her until she was a few months old. you dont owe it to anyone to hand ur baby off like its a show and tell project. if they're pushy, dont invite them over until they respect your boundaries and make sure your partner is also firm about it and deals with any backlash
Socialization is important. My baby has been around a lot of family. She is incredibly engaged with other people, and it’s wonderful to see. I believe it’s been a positive. I don’t think kissing babies is inherently bad. I think it’s a natural human response. I don’t think the development of automatically projecting our feelings about human touch onto a little child has been good. Children are developing human beings and not possessions. Society has gotten overly hysterical about safety. Obviously, use common sense. You don’t have to let everyone hold your baby, but I don’t think it’s a bad thing to expose babies to different people when they’re young. I totally get feeling territorial and protective though.
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