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3 years ago

Etiquette for unborn baby funeral

Hello My husbands cousin was pregnant and just lost the baby in her third trimester so they are having a memorial service this weekend. I was wondering if anyone had any knowledge of what I should bring, what is the etiquette or what would be a thoughtful gift? Thanks in advance.
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3 years ago

I’m so so sorry for their loss! Prayers ❤️😢

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3 years ago

Thank you!

3 years ago

I would echo what others have said and try to talk to them about the baby as time passes. Especially on what would have been the baby’s birthday (or due date etc) just telling your friend that you’re thinking about them will really help.

3 years ago

To add to the above, be there for them 6, 12, 18 months down the line. Let them know that you remember their baby. Most people never mention babies again for fear of not knowing what to say, it means the world to a grieving parent to know that their child is remembered and that you are checking on them.

3 years ago

When I lost my boy it meant a lot that people sent him flowers and was there for us, also some food as we didn’t feel like shopping or cooking x

3 years ago

Both my sister in laws lost a infant my nephew was 10 weeks old and my niece was 12 weeks old ot was a horrible heartbreaking time for the whole family but especially the Mum let Her know you are always a phone call away day or night 2pm or 2am go over and sit with here the loneliness is consuming when grieving we got 1 a tatto paid for so should could get a tribute piece for her baby boy and the other we got meals and a box with her baby’s info name date weight ect I’m so sorry for your families loss ❤️

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3 years ago

We had a star named after my late nephew for his first birthday my sister in law loves it we even chose a start in the consolation of his birthday sign

3 years ago

When my baby was born too early someone named a star after her and that was really special. The most meaningful thing you can do though is check back in in 6 months from now when everyone else has gone about their lives and say I think about your baby all the time and say the baby’s name. For instance when I saw this flower it reminded me of your baby. It will mean everything to them, their lives will never be the same and to know other people think of the baby they love more then anything is tummy be the only thing that really does help.

3 years ago

Thank you all so much i appreciate the help!

3 years ago

Aww I'm so sad for her! Honestly the best thing you can do is provide care. Household help, if she has other kids offer to babysit for a weekend, anything that will give her and her husband time to cope and grieve.

3 years ago

I love the tree idea or if they had a name for the baby already a piece of jewelry with the name on it. My friend lost her baby girl 24 hours after birth and it’s really important for her to have supports that will talk about her little girl, ask questions and acknowledge her as a mom. I think we tend to think it’s better to not bring it up but that’s not what the mom or dad needs.

3 years ago

When my childhood neighbor lost her 3 month old baby, my sister and I sent her family a memorial tree to plant in honor of her son that passed.

3 years ago

For my cousin, I bought them Home Chef meals for a month and came over and did her laundry

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3 years ago

❤️

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