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Not alone but lonely

Does anyone have that thing where like....you know you have friends but you don’t feel like you’ve met your PERSON friend? Like that one super best friend that you’re always at each other house and you always talk and it’s always effortless and never feels forced? Anyone else looking for this? Is it just me? 🤷🏽‍♀️😔🙃

I’m like Mika Kunis looking for my bad mom squad.

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You took the words right out of my head . I totally get it .

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If we lived closer I sure would end up being your pain in the ass friend lol

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100% Yes!!

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Same boat and my long distance ones are more acquaintances than anything I literally have always been a loner

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I was just saying this to my husband last night about how I miss having a best friend, like girl best friend! Lol it’s so important for moms to have their “person” (thanks greys anatomy!)

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We don’t have a lot of couple friends who have kids and they truly don’t understand what being a parent is like but still like to comment like they do. I’ve stayed at home w my girls for the last 4 years and they have said things to me like “what do u do all day” or “don’t u get bored” and the best “do u feel bad your husband works all day while you’re home”.. needless to say we don’t get together much w them, so that lessens the amount of friends in my life even more and it’s just hard bc I feel like moms are always being judged about every little thing we do and so I honestly get nervous about meeting new people!

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Pretty much. Like every time I think about it, I feel selfish, but I want that stuck up my ass friend. That legit feeling best friend. Even my closest sister friend I don’t feel like that with anymore. I think something is wrong with me.

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I thought I was the only one who felt this way... it sucks! I want that so bad.

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Omg. Yes. This is why I got this app looking for my person!

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Yep! 🙋‍♀️ same here

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All the time. A person who gets you ! I keep haven groups of friends I introduce people and then everyone hangs and kinda leaves me out.

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All the damn time!

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Riding the same boat. 🙋🏻‍♀️

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I always say this to my husband

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I swear I thought I was the only one !!
The girl I used to be tight as fuck just became a stranger and a bitch this was like 4 years ago ever since I’ve tried to make friends but I haven’t clicked with anyone and it kinda sucks 😭😭😭

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I’m definitely looking for something like that, but it definitely takes a lot of patience and persistence!

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same here

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All the time. When your a mom you sometimes forget to take care of your self and make friends of your own after kids.

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Yes yes 1000 times yes. So lonely. Totally get it!!

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I’m a first time mom and I feel like that too. It sucks. I use to wonder why moms would say u lose friends when u have kids.

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I had one. And then she passed away. So now I’m back to feeling lonely

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Same :/

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Same here !

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I feel the same it's really hard after you have children and the older you get.

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Yes its so hard to find that one genuine person that truly has your back! Ive been through too many bad friendships and having them disappear and it takes time to trust again and open up again!

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Honestly I do have that person, but I just had a baby, and she’s the single and mingle type still looking for the right guy..
so it’s difficult being a ftm without another mom friend that can relate. I love my best friend and she’s fully supportive (we both even consider her to be an auntie to my kid) but she’s not gonna fully understand or relate to what I’m going through until she has a baby too. So in a way, yes I feel this.

I’d love to have a mom friend tribe, or at least a best friend who is also a mom 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Yes same here. I have a friend that’s pretty much my best friend but I go months without seeing her and talking to her and when we get together i feel like we’re growing apart 😢

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I did have my person friend until I had kids 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Definitely not alone, I feel same way just that one!

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Same!

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I feel same way!!! Man, where do you stay?

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