Early pregnancy after loss

Hi guys I’m 5 weeks pregnant and I’m really struggling with the anxiety. I lost both my babies in my 5th week so I know it’s normal to feel this way but sometimes it is crippling. I’m trying to rest as much as possible and I’ve got some positive affirmations but I still experience palpitations, I feel lightheaded, I freak out every time I feel discharge and I dread going to the toilet. Can anyone share what helped them get through their pregnancy after loss please? I’d be grateful for any tips xx

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Following. Just found out yesterday I’m pregnant with after a loss in January. I’m excited but so scared, can’t sleep, so much anxiety. ❤️

I have no advice sorry as I’m not there yet, but wanted to say I’m sorry you’re finding it hard x I imagine all you can do is take each day as it comes and look after yourself xx

I was in the same boat when I found out I was pregnant after 3 losses. I was a WRECK for the first trimester. Some things that helped: see if your doctor is willing to do an early scan. We had our first scan at 6 weeks exactly and saw his heartbeat which was so reassuring. Try to take everything hour by hour and day by day and find little things that give you pleasure. Talk about how you’re feeling with family and friends - keeping everything in makes it feel so much bigger and more isolating. I would also encourage finding a therapist if you can. Hang in there!!

I’m 13 weeks after 4 losses before 6 weeks. The anxiety doesn’t go away just more manageable. It was crippling for me at the beginning too. Honestly I didn’t bond with this pregnancy until week 8-9. Like I didn’t talk about it as an actual thing.

I absolutely understand. This is my fourth pregnancy. The first three ended between 5 weeks 4 days and 8 weeks. I’m absolutely terrified. I went to the beach over my spring break and the wet bathing suit bottom made me so scared that I cried.

I try to pray and take slow breaths. I also make my husband squeeze my hand or have a weighted blanket for when he isn’t around.

The only thing that got me through is the mantra of “different pregnancy, different baby”.
I’m so sorry for your loss but please have hope. I’m 17 weeks tomorrow after a mmc last August 🙏🏼🌈

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