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Orgasm Intensity b/w male & females

So the other day my husband and I had a convo that blew my mind and it might be silly but I had never considered this before. After we managed to sneak a quickie in while the kiddos napped he was being attentive and asking how it was for me and I was honest and told him I climaxed but it was a small one and then I asked how it was for him and he said good. Well I found that reply to be such a bore and asked if it was a strong cum for him or not and he said they ALL FEEL THE SAME! So I was baffled and had him elaborate and he says that probably for guys it’s all the same, as in its great but the intensity doesn’t fluctuate like I described mine at times 🤯 so is it just me whose orgasms can be in between weak-strong??? Or do guys orgasms just literally feel the same all the time? Or perhaps it’s just my guy? I have no clue but found this to be interesting 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Mine do range in intensity. Mens can too. I've had men i've been with have extremely intense orgasms even without ejaculation before. One of them thought he was having a heart attack at first (at 23) as he had never experienced it before 😂 he didn't realise men could have multiple orgasms just like us.

My OH has different orgasms like me too. His intensity can be much higher when its been a while, he has also had orgasms without ejaculating. I can physically tell when its more intense for him & he can feel it with me too.

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My boyfriends’ ranges. Try having him abstaining from sex or masterbating for about a week & see if he still says that lol

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I feel with men it tends to range based on what the situation is and how they're perceiving the experience.

The intensity of the orgasm is more stimulated by their mental perception of the excitement and/or environment of the interaction.

Any orgasm is good to them but I know they don't get the overwhelming all over the body sensation of release that we do.

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Mine fluctuate. I asked my husband.. he said they are usually the same..and sometimes vary a bit, better than others.

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My orgasms fluctuate depending on the type of orgasm. I have yet to have a vaginal orgasm, it feels like nothing to me when we have sex. BUT, I do have clitoral orgams and it depends on how fast or the rhythm.

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Both myself and the hubby’s fluctuate. Usually when we are busy and go a few days without they are more intense for us both. Also foreplay helps for us too.

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I feel foreplay has a big difference for me and my partner but tbh for me it's either a flop or amazing there is no in-between where my partner it's always good but here and there it's mind blowing if that makes sense.

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Mine range 100% and so does my husband’s some times he says it was good and other times he explains how amazing it was and I can definitely tell by how he is after lol

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Oh I can have weak orgasms lol like so little that I wonder okay did I orgasm, but I know I did and sometimes they are longer and more intense, which I definitely prefer lol. My husband has told me though that his orgasms can vary in intensity too. They always feel good but some are better than others.

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Me and my fiance both vary a lot 🤣 I can always tell when his are more intense though. He says the same thing about mine

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There are definitely ranges of intensity and they feel different based on their origin (oral, manual clitoral stimulation, intercourse only).

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Mine definitely vary and judging by my husbands reaction his do too although I have to admit I’ve never actually asked. He normally says that was lush or something similar, 😂

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That's definitely not true, it can definitely be different for men as well. Maybe he just isn't very in tune with his body. I can always tell the difference when it's better or not as mind blowing for my fiancé..sometimes he can't even talk afterwards.

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Mine range in intensity and so do my husbands. But mine can go from kinda weak to super strong, while my husband’s range from good/great to MINDBLOWING
Like his weakest seem a lot more intense than my weakest. He definitely has ones that are much MUCH better than average and I can definitely tell the difference

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Mine range massively my husbands apparently do not

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They definitely range depending on the sex for both men and women .. knowing your partner is key

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Sadly I don't know if I orgasm when I have sex with my husband.. my husband finishes and he's good.. but I'm there thinking did I go? Lol sad I know

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It sounds like you probably haven’t. Lots of women don’t during sex. Try exploring with yourself, and try having your husband pleasure you in other ways. It’s usually more effective! :)

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Mine definitely vary! And my husband says his do too. I can also sort of tell?

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Mine fluctuates and sometimes i dont even have a generic orgasm. Itll just be like a head high spine tingles. 😂 My boyfriend says his orgasms are stronger when its us together instead of taking care of it himself.

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This must be different for different men because my husband’s can go from good to explosive depending. There’s definitely a difference for him.

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