First time mums

ive got a 3 month old who’s uncontrollably crying, won’t stop and won’t settle for hours. He has reflux, he has cmpa. i don’t know what to do please someone help. i’ve fed him, changed him, changed his clothes he’s had a bath to try and settle its just nothing is working. Sad mumma over here:(

I just feel so torn to get whooping cough and rsv vaccine. I want to obviously protect my baby but at the same time, will never know truly what’s in these vaccines that we put in our bodies and babies bodies. Our mums and grandmas never had these in their time and kids were fine.

Does anyone else have issues with their mother-in-law?

I do. A lot of issues. Long story short (actually kinda long lol) this woman told me, while I was in active labor (with complications), I must have a lower pain tolerance than her. She told me her contractions were in the 200s and mine were very low. They should’ve been way higher. They were in the 60s-70s, and I looked it up. They were normal numbers and the machine maxes out at 100. She had kids over 20 years ago.

She stayed at my house without ever asking or telling me. She just assumed she could stay there while I was in labor. I am very guarded when it comes to my home. Even if you are family, I like to be home if you are there. She then over welcomed her stay. She basically wiggled her way so she could spend the night with me in the hospital instead of my own mom or sister. I felt guilted and rushed into it because “she’ll never get to see the baby”.

She insisted she should be my lactation consultant and saw my boobs. She never even tried to give me privacy, so I could latch my baby. She pretty much turned away all the lactation consultants that came by because she knew what she was doing.

She asked me when I would feel ready to be left alone with the baby. I had a total of 5 minutes of alone time with my baby. I had a very hard time bonding to her because of it. I wanted to be left alone with my baby. I told her she could go home that day we came home from the hospital and she stayed with us for another three days. Not one time did she leave the house to give my family alone time or privacy. Nothing. Never even offered.

She calls her son “baby” around me and instead of just referring the grandbaby as “my grandbaby” she calls her “our baby” inserting herself as per usual.

The day she did leave, she gave me unsolicited relationship advice which is funny considering her husband sleeps around on her and they don’t even live together. She only wears her wedding ring when it benefits her. She pretends her relationship is good instead of just facing the fact it was over several years ago when she actually left him. I put in the effort to send pictures and to let her see my baby, but she stopped putting in effort months ago. Now it’s my fault. She claims I quit trying. I never did. We moved further away as she insisted we moved into the rental home because I needed to create a stable like for my child (it was already stable).

Now my hubby is frustrated with me and saying I’m acting like a child just like his mom. I don’t see what’s wrong in wanting an apology from her before I’ll give anymore effort. I’m tired of being the one nice to this woman who has never respected me. Not to mention I’m already having to be nice to his sister who referred to unborn child at the time, inbred, and pretty much cyberbullied me for a little bit. She also has been a terrible aunt and now all of the sudden she wants to be in the picture but more like low-effort. She doesn’t ever make a point either. And no I never got an apology from her either.

I’m just mad. I have postpartum rage and I just want to go off on them so bad. My husband is just not understanding that. To him I’m still being petty and using our child as leverage. To me, I’m tired of being the better person when it doesn’t change the results. I never get anything back from them, so why bother. I’m not going out of my way to be disrespectful to them like they were to me. I’m simply being firm with my boundaries.Can anyone else relate?

Anonymous post because I’m honestly at my wits’ end with nappies! 😩

My daughter is 83cm tall and 10.3kg, and we are having CONSTANT problems with wee leaking from her nappies — particularly in her car seat.

She needs a spare outfit with us pretty much every single day because she ends up soaked. I’m constantly having to change her clothes, clean the car seat and swap covers, and it’s becoming a nightmare.

We have tried:

• Pampers Size 5
• Pampers Size 4+
• Pampers Premium Protection (purple)
• Pampers Baby-Dry (blue/yellow)
• Pampers pull-ups Size 4 Premium Protection (purple)
• Pampers pull-ups Size 4 Baby-Dry (red)

And we’re still getting leaks. 😭

She’s quite tall and slim for her weight, so I’m wondering whether the issue is the shape/fit rather than the actual size. The leaks seem to be from wee rather than poo.

Has anyone had a similar problem with a tall, slim toddler and found a nappy that actually works? I’m open to trying a different brand entirely — I just need something that will stay dry, especially during car journeys!

What nappies worked for your tall/slim toddlers? And did you size up or down?

83cm / 10.3kg if that helps with recommendations. 🙏

I’m due early december and in laws live abroad. Initially they wanted to be here for the birth and I wanted a few weeks to recover (and not be leaking and bleeding everywhere). It took a while to convince them but finally they agreed. Then they asked to book tickets now, we said can we wait to decide exact dates til after the birth so we can see how my recovery is going, but that wasn’t good enough either and they had to be booked now. So finally we said how about anytime after dec 23 and MIL didn’t even respond to me but responded separately to husband saying how dare she those weren’t my dates I wanted to come on the 20th. Husband finally said ok that’s your choice don’t come so they’re not coming. Is anyone else’s in laws like this?? Like we acquiesced to everything they wanted (there’s more that they pushed back on that we gave up enforcing) but it’s apparently still not good enough? Do they realize they don’t have unilateral control and they don’t get to set schedules anymore?? Is asking the new parents completely a foreign concept??