Marriage Help

I have left my partner i couldnt take doing everything for him he took me for granted we were together for 13+ years and he just didnt do a thing he lost his job but even when he was working I still done everything for him anyway hes refusing to leave we are joint tenancy on our council home I feel like signing the rights to him and find myself somewhere else to live with our 3 kids I cant stand living with him any longer hes constantly in my space asking for me back I sleep on our couch I have been for nearly a week now he is adamant we are getting back together our kids know I have been to housing they wont rehome me I'm just looking for any advice hes also waiting on me to help him find a job and to find out what hes entitled to which im also trying to find out for myself too and hes refusing to talk about co parenting as he is always in my space saying can you take me back now I will change I have made changes just take me back but im done I have asked him to back off and he hasnt - sorry about the rant I just dont know what to do any advice please hes draining me.

This is an incredibly long story but it starts with childhood trauma. Then mother problems as an adult. Losing his job & having to get help from family to pay bills. I started seeing a loss in drive at the time of losing his job & he had a hard time trying to find a new one because of lack of confidence. We had marital problems due to my postpartum depression & weight gain. Then he got a new job this January & February was the best month ever. Lots of sex lots of laughter and fun & just happiness. All of a sudden he isn’t in love with me anymore. His hobby is slowpitch softball & he said he has drowned himself in softball due to not wanting to come home. Never seeing the kids before bed. Being gone all day at work. Never being around in the evenings. He says home doesn’t feel like home and he’s miserable. We don’t have a bad relationship. We communicate well, we don’t argue or yell. We talk through disagreements. We have the same values. I’ve never been unfaithful even though he has done plenty that I’ve had to forgive. He has gone as far as saying he wants to separate & he has gone to stay elsewhere leaving me with our 2 kids. We’ve been together 11 years. He says this has been going on for 2-3 years but never said anything even though we’ve had ups & downs. I truly feel like he’s depressed but won’t admit it and won’t get therapy or any professional help. He says he needs time to decide if he wants a divorce or if he want to work on things. If I am sure he’s depressed & hes going to ruin this family how can I help him not make the wrong decision. Can I give him an ultimatum? If he wants to come back he needs help? If he wants a divorce he needs help first before I sign papers? He’s said so many hurtful things to me but I want to believe that it’s just the depression talking & the depression telling him he doesn’t care because he does care. I know this Is just a very small portion of everything but any advice?

I have told my partner I'm done we are over and at first he took it well said i was to do what made me happy and that I wasnt to worry about him but now hes threatening to take our kids away from me and that I'm only allowed them at the weekends and I have to send him all our finances as hes going to become the primary carer and I'll have visitations I'm not a bad person at all then he said this has came out of nowhere hes refusing to go but hes stopping me leaving with our kids so I have to sleep on our sofa while he has our bedroom to himself I dont know what to do I have never been in this situation before but I cant go on in a loveless relationship anymore I didnt plan for this which is my bad but I'm just so fed up now this is making me sick

Been together w/my hubby for 20 yrs and just recently tried to move to NC w/him in a tiny home. I stayed for 1.5 yrs, but sadly my mental state was declining since the property was so remote and I have no fam/friends there. I decided to move back to our FL home since it didn't sell and he's still in NC till he finishes his contract w/his job in September. My son decided to stay w/him and my daughter w/me. It's been hard, sad, lonely w/o my boys, but I'm trying my best to put a smile to my face everyday and keep going. I have so many emotions especially guilt because I left. I was on 3 medications when I lived there and fell into a really dark place at one point. Now, I'm no longer on meds and seem better. I'm also looking for new employment (living off my savings for now), and working on me. When I do bring up the conversation of him coming back in September my husband seems hesitant. He hates FL and wasn't happy when we were here. I told him to give it another chance and after the kids finish school (approx 8 yrs to go) we can try moving again...I do sadly feel if he comes back to FL he'll resent me. I don't want to beg him to come back because I want him happy even if it's w/o me...I'm so lonely and it doesn't help that I'm an introvert, hard to make any friends etc...Does long distance marriage even work? Any advice? Is anyone else going through something similar out there? I just miss my little family being together.

My son just turned 5 and I wanted to celebrate his bday the same as iv done my older sons. Just a small gathering of my immediate family. Parents brother and 2 sisters. I cooked, cleaned, decorated brought presents. My husband finished at 1, came home, made a comment about how tired and awful I look. And then decided he is going to the gym. I had to pick up kids from school and told him how rushed I was and still needed to wrap presents. But he decided the best time to go to the gym that's open 24/7 was there and then. When he could have helped me with a couple of things. I did look surprised and he started acting moody and I said ok fine go gym then. He went and when he came back I was still rushed off my feet and wrapping presents and he made some comment about how I'm doing too much. I got more annoyed as he hadn't lifted a finger and all I was doing was trying to do our usual bday thing with my family (his family are not really involved and we never see them) I couldn't control my anger and annoyance and we ended up having an argument and i ended up shouting and screaming as I was burnt out from always doing everything alone. I felt like it wasnt the best time to go to the gym. He could have even gone later. Anyway I'm crying upstairs. My family come to the door and he's huffing and puffing and shouting "I'm not doing this" whilst theyre at the door. They come in and I do my best to hide my tears as I'm quiet upset at this point. We do the whole evening and don't speak to each other unless needed. Next day we were supposed to have a family day and he decided to just go without me and took kids out. He came back and I had messaged him during the morning and he blocked me. When they got back I had so much anger and annoyance and I asked him what have I done. And he just ignored me and kept swearing and telling me to shut up. Things basically went from bad to worse and the argument basically erupted and he was quite abusive, cursing my family and how I didn't need to invite my family. They came for free food and was very disrespectful towards my family. He started calling my dad and bothering him at work and I called his dad which he got upset about. His parents speak a different language and I rely on Google translate to speak to them. I sent them a video of him screaming in my face and towering over me as I feel I can't speak to them properly and explain my side. He's obviously got so mad at this after calling my dad again and again. I guess I'm just venting but was it really that ridiculous of me to get annoyed when he chose to go to the gym instead of helping out? Did I over react? He does this all the time and I'm left feeling like a machine rather than a partner. We have had countless arguments over him never showing up for me but I still don't learn to shut up and end up expressing my hurt which always ALWAYS Leads to explosive arguments. We are now on the edge of divorce threats from him and saying he hates me and saying horrible things about my family. All of which he does anyway usually. I guess I'm asking if I was in the wrong? After every argument like this I regret speaking up and knowing if I just stayed quiet things wouldn't have escalated. How can I teach myself to not speak when I'm hurt? It seems like such a big price to pay. My poor kids have heard him constantly shouting and being abusive and say horrible things about me and my family all day. I kept away but he broke the washing machine door and was quite threatening. Which isn't the first time either. Have I fkd up? Should I have stayed silent and not expressed how annoyed I was that he chose to go to the gym whilst we are just half HR away from guests arriving and I'm rushed? :( feeling terrible.