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I have told my partner I'm done we are over and at first he took it well said i was to do what made me happy and that I wasnt to worry about him but now hes threatening to take our kids away from me and that I'm only allowed them at the weekends and I have to send him all our finances as hes going to become the primary carer and I'll have visitations I'm not a bad person at all then he said this has came out of nowhere hes refusing to go but hes stopping me leaving with our kids so I have to sleep on our sofa while he has our bedroom to himself I dont know what to do I have never been in this situation before but I cant go on in a loveless relationship anymore I didnt plan for this which is my bad but I'm just so fed up now this is making me sick

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What is he doing to prevent you from leaving? Threatening to take on full custody? Try a lawyer and see what your rights are, certainly he can’t just force you all to stay? And it sounds like you’re not married?

What country are you in?

Does he work? Do you?

Are you renting? Have a mortgage? If rented, is it council or private? Are both your names on the tenancy?

You absolutely do not have to send him your bank statements/finances. He also cannot withhold your children. Speak to a solicitor and they’ll tell you what your next move should be.

Make sure you don’t move out if you are on a council property. You definitely need proper legal advice going forward as your housing situation will complicate matters.

In the UK its highly unlikely he would be granted majority custody if you have been the SAHM (primary carer) for the kids up to now. Phone the council and discuss your options, they might put you and the children into temporary accommodation while they find you somewhere new

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

5 month old activities

Hey everyone my baby is 5 months old and I want to reduce/cut screen time as I have read up on how bad it is what activities did people do to keep their baby entertained. Thank you in advance.