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Almost a year ago, I expressed wanting to move so I could have help with our kids and be closer to family. As time went on, my grandmother’s health declined tremendously and she’s in the final stages and could be gone any day now. And I realized how important it was for me and our kids to spend as much time with her as possible. I haven’t lived there in years and phone calls and visiting not the same no more knowing time isn’t on our side.

I made it clear I wasn’t trying to move forever. Just a year. Just time I can’t get back. We both have jobs and a place to stay waiting on us in the new state. He has a job now that he goes days/weeks at a time not working and our kids are under 2 so it’s no problem moving. And he agreed.

Now that it’s actually time, everything changed. The dates kept getting pushed, the reasons kept changing, and now it’s turned into “you can go with the kids, I don’t have to go. I’ll just stay.”

It hurts because I didn’t just want to go I wanted my partner there with me and support me. I’ve always supported him in the past even when it was hard. Plus we get married in a few weeks.

I just eventually said I’ll go without him but I’m hurt the one time I need support I don’t get it. It’s not giving we a team.