Toddler & Mom Support

Sometimes when I realize I’ve actually been doing my job as a mom is when I start thinking about “ what if I slightly tossed a pillow at my child’s face to make her leave me alone for 5 MINUTES “ after she asks me the same question 15 times & I answered it all 15 times.

But I don’t.

I suck it up & I answer the same question another 15 times & if I know that is overwhelming me, I tell their dad he’s on the clock for the next hour & I walk out to the backyard for some peace & quiet.

& then I get a sudden reminder that my partner is the WORST person to rely on with the kids when I need a break because here they come opening the backyard door like “ mommy can we come outside too??? “

& then it hits me. I have the right to protect my peace

So once my me time gets interrupted, I get offended & talk to my kids for the next 30 seconds like I’m not their mom.

“ No. I don’t want you to come outside. I need time for myself to remember who I am, because I’m not just your mother or your dad’s wife, I’m a human being with feelings that build up & when I’ve had to answer the same question you asked me 30 TIMES, I need you to leave me alone for 15 minutes. So no you can’t come outside right now. go read a book “

& just like that, my kids see ME as the angry, bad parent. Because I have to tell my kids myself that I need to get away from them for 15 MINUTES all bc my husband (just like some dads) want to be the child’s friend.

Man I HATE being a stay at home mom to toddlers. It was easier when they were babies. I was less angry & overwhelmed when I had a job that could give me a feeling of being needed by actual adults & not 5 year olds. Being able to hear Tik Tok by Kesha on the store radio instead of the same Bluey/Dora.

I’m not trying to sound ungrateful or like I hate my life. I’ve just decided I’m easier to get overwhelmed when I’m locked in a house day in day out with toddler who don’t understand boundaries, no matter how much I try to explain it.

Hi I'm new here and I desperately need help my 2 and 3 year old boys just turned 2 and 3 and now it's like everything I do they don't listen at all they listen to other people but not me period I'm a single mom and I don't co parent so it's very hard especially when they just don't listen I've tried everything from popping their butts to time out, communication and redirecton I desperately need help I'm at a loss and it's making it very hard for day to day and my 3 year old son who's completely potty trained is now all of a sudden fighting me to go potty

I need advice urgently. My husband and I have 2 kids and one on the way. He has 1 other kid with another women from a past marriage. The first couple months were great and he made me feel like I’m the number one person in his world. Now 6 years later we couldn’t be so far off the deep end. He’s not emotionally mature at all and whenever there’s a disagreement he goes straight to screaming and disrespecting me. Our son asks me whenever this happens why does papa talk to you like that? Why does he yell? Can you tell him I don’t like that? Then I have my daughter who will come in the room and yell at him (she’s 3) to stop yelling at me and that I’m here mom. This is so toxic for her to feel like she has to protect me. When I was little I had to protect my mom so it’s very triggering for me to see my daughter almost play the same role but at a younger age. I’ve explained to him so many times how it makes me feel and how it makes the kids feel and how the house is not a peaceful household. I had a hard childhood and I’m in therapy so I can break cycles and be the best version of myself/mom I can be. I’m so scared of the damage of a split household but I’m so scared to damage my kids and self by the example he’s setting / how unhappy i am by the way he views me and treats me. His ex wife was on the phone tonight when he was trying to teach his kids the Quran (1 on the phone since he doesn’t live with us) and then my son hitting right in front of him. I’m in a completely different room and I can hear my husband as if he’s sitting right next to me and he’s yelling at his son how to say the words correctly when he’s making mistakes. Granted I thought he was yelling at my son (5) but it was his other son (9). So I walked into the room and was telling him no teacher talks like this why are you yelling they don’t learn this way. He told me to shut the fuck up and get out of the room. I told him again to fix the way he’s talking in a nice but serious tone and to not speak to me this way. He proceeded to say I don’t give a fuck and to get out of the room and it went on for like a minute. Now his ex wife definitely heard that and it’s very embarrassing for me. She literally left him for these reasons and when she knew he moved on she asked him “why don’t you talk to her the way you talk to me” he responded “because you’re not Marisa and never will be I can’t let myself talk to her like that” it made me feel so good in that moment because I felt loved, respected and special. But now I feel like there’s no difference between me and her or some other person because I don’t feel loved, respected or valued. He told me he can pay for anybody to do what I do. He just blames me for his actions and I feel so stuck with do I leave for me and the backlash of kids get their dad taken away? Do I further damage myself and be unhappy? Do I show my kids this example of how to exactly not be or have them get upset and develope anxiety? Or feel not safe at home due to my emotional abuse? I’m pregnant and have no job. He provides everything for me. I feel so stuck.

I have post partum rage and I desperately need help. I've tried therapist but the only advice I'm given is i need someone to help give me a break. I don't have ANYONE. I'm completely alone. I have 3 kids and I never ever get a break. I don't have money for a sitter. Can anyone please give me any advice that doesn't include "taking a break"? I don't have that luxury. I'm losing my mind and it's breaking me. I can see my kids pulling away from me. Please someone help.

Hey, if anyone can offer me some advice or share similar experiences I’d be incredibly grateful.

My little girl is 2 and has been having Laxido Paediatric sachets for just over a year now.

She was originally prescribed 3 sachets per day and with guidance from her GP was weaned down to one sachet each day. We’ve been told to give her 2 but still strains to poo.

I’ve been told that she could be on these sachets for the rest of her life, which I don’t want!

Trying to get any fruits or vegetables down her feels like an impossible task lately, her diet is pretty beige and Lord knows how much I try each day to get her to eat her greens.

She’s recently developed a nasty nappy rash, she holds herself when she needs to poo, she won’t drink her water with her Laxido in it. She won’t sit down in the bath, she doesn’t like having her bum out for the rash to air out a little either.

She screams the roof down and I mean she absolutely screams the roof down when I change her. I can’t change her without being in tears myself, there’s nothing worse than seeing your baby be in pain or discomfort.

The only thing that’s ever worked for her nappy rash is Metanium 😓 Sod’s Law that it’s been discontinued!

She gets changed every hour at the very least.

I’ve tried to get her started with potty training but she won’t go anywhere near her potty. I’ve tried putting her toys on it to demonstrate, I’ve even sat on the bloody thing myself! 😅 I’ve tried potty training pants. She turned 2 in December so maybe she isn’t quite ready yet.

Her GP has suggested that I use Vaseline after each change, to bath her in plain water twice daily and to use 2 Laxido sachets daily.

I’ve since read that Laxido can cause a sore bum!

I feel like I’m failing my daughter, there’s got to be something that works for her. 😓

I’m taking her back to her GP on Thursday (my day off work) but as I said, if anyone has any advice or can share a similar experience that can give me some hope, I’d much appreciate it.

Many thanks from one frustrated Mamma X