Toddler behavior questions

Hi I'm new here and I desperately need help my 2 and 3 year old boys just turned 2 and 3 and now it's like everything I do they don't listen at all they listen to other people but not me period I'm a single mom and I don't co parent so it's very hard especially when they just don't listen I've tried everything from popping their butts to time out, communication and redirecton I desperately need help I'm at a loss and it's making it very hard for day to day and my 3 year old son who's completely potty trained is now all of a sudden fighting me to go potty

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I would stay firm on boundaries. Don’t be casual one hour and the next blow up — keep a clear governance over them. No means no, however, if you think you might cave after a few minutes of tantrums quickly evaluate before saying no and say yes to avoid the fight. Testing your limits is where they are at developmentally. They are seeing how far they can go, then once they know they will keep going that far. I know I did that with my parents, I remember. I’m getting most of this from a book I’m literally reading now called “Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler” by Jamie Glowacki. And the first chapters are about it being their developmental job to test you and the world to see what they can get. She has a podcast and it could be an audiobook for you. I’m sorry it’s going so tough. Sounds like you are trying a lot of things, it’s hard but try not to take it personal. Boundary testing is the name of the game at 2 and 3 because they have figured out they are separate from you and not apart of you!

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Postpartum

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Rant/WWYD

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What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!