Gentle vs. permissive parenting?

I've been trying to read up on gentle parenting vs permissive parenting. My MIL told my husband today (after visiting for 4 days) that we seem to be doing permissive parenting but that we aren't spoiling her, so that's good... So I looked up permissive parenting, which has all these negative connotations of course and it's got me worked up. My not-being-good-enough-for-her-son relationship with her aside, I'm trying to figure out if I should be worried or not. For raising a 2 year old, what's your gauge of what goes from gentle to permissive? As in, I'm relatively more firm about what she eats (as in, healthier food choices but ok to treat her to ice cream here or there after dinner) but am pretty open to giving into just letting her get her way about toys throughout the day - unless it's dangerous/going to the playground a LOT (one more time ends up being maybe 5 more times depending on if we really need to leave per our schedule)/letting her sleep later than most kids - but she gets enough sleep, etc. At what point am I supposed to tell my 2 year old "no" essentially?

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Was she wrong for ignoring us?

We celebrated Eid as well as my baby’s first birthday on Friday at my in laws house. When we were there, some family friends of my husband also came. He calls them his uncle and he came with her daughter who is 27. We have met a handful of times, and they came to our wedding as well. My husband and I have 2 kids. When his uncle and daughter came, she greeted everyone accept myself and the kids. She ignored us the entire time and when she left she didn’t say bye to us either. She was also off with my husband as well. When I asked my husband he thinks she’s behaving like this because he used to visit them almost every day and since we got married and had kids he hasn’t. Our kids are 3 and 1, and the last 2 years has been so intense. Difficult pregnancy and postpartum plus a baby with colic. Is she wrong for being rude to us like this or is it my husband’s fault ? Also why is it always the woman that gets blamed, I almost feel like she’s blaming me for him not coming to visit…

Weaning

Anyone feeling a little lost with weaning, should I be offering my 7.5 month old 3 meals a day? I don’t know by what age how much they should be eating?😩

I think half my problem as well it maybe I don’t eat the most nutritious breakfast and lunch 😂 I never cooked lunches from scratch but I also have a Velcro baby so cooking in itself is a mission

Baby rice

My baby boy is 15 weeks old, is that too early to start him on baby rice?

Solids for my 5 month old

My 5 month old doesnt seem to be filling up on milk anymore, can i give her solids? She spent all night crying but im not sure why she'll want a bottle every hour or less and im not sure whether to just start her on like a cereal in the morning..

Help please 🙏

MIL Rant

My husband and I are both working parents but I am our son’s primary parent. However, when we see or talk to my MIL and she asks questions about the baby, she only looks to my husband for answers. I love my husband and he is an excellent dad, but most of the time, he just looks at me to answer because he doesn’t know. My MIL will continue staring at my husband while I answer her question and almost act like I didn’t say anything until he repeats exactly what I just said.

She also likes to pretend she doesn’t hear me when I tell her to give me my son when he cries or when he needs changed. She’s pissed that in large group settings I prefer to hold my son and told my husband that I need to learn to share. Ma’am, he’s my baby. Not a toy.

I told my husband he should talk to her before I do because I won’t be as nice. He just keeps telling me that she means well.

need advice

need advice

i’m 3months postpartum.
my bump is on the way down but still there and feels hard.
i’m trying to be healthier & exercise..
but my husband keeps treating me!
coming home with mcdonald’s i didn’t ask for or sweet treats on shopping.

i’ve told him i didn’t ask for it and I’m trying to lose weight. it starts an argument and he tells me i’m ungrateful.. even though i never ask for mcdonald’s . he gets all grumpy and says i am ungrateful because i didn’t want him to bring home coffee or treats. i don’t ask for it

i feel like he doesn’t want me to look nice or start to have my life back again