Vent: my in-laws, love them to death... but...
I'm going to be a first time mom, we're are not doing great financially because my husband is still in school and we're still paying off my student loans, so there's a lot of things that we need to get for being first time parents. I was told by my mother-in-law not to buy too much in advance so there are things on the registry guests can get me.
Well they just sent out the invites for my shower and not only did they not include where I'm registered at (despite specifically asking me where I was registered) but the invites are also for a baby sprinkle, not a shower.
I thought that sprinkles were solely for people who already had kids and so already have all their big ticket items and just needed more clothes and diapers. We're planning on exclusively cloth diapering so diapers won't be a huge help and my two sisters have already gifted me hand me down clothes to help us save money so I have an abundance of clothes.
I don't mean to sound ungrateful but I don't understand why they would do a sprinkle instead of a shower when we're first time parents. I registered on Amazon for the specific reason that it allows group gifting so people can throw a couple bucks towards our big item purchases that we really need instead of people having to outright buy things and they knew that.
I just feel so frustrated that they're going to spend all the time and effort to throw me a sprinkle and guests will waste their money buying us things we don't need or want because they weren't given information about what we it was we actually needed.
I'm probably a bit hormonal and stressed about finances but I'm almost in tears, I've never heard of anyone having a sprinkle for their first child and I just can't understand why this would happen.
My relationship with my in laws are more important than this in the long run so I'm choosing not to say anything and I'm grateful that they're still throwing a party and I can visit with his side of the family which we hardly see.
I just wish that if this was the plan that I had been told earlier so I could have been making purchases myself instead of funneling that money towards paying down debt. I'm due in less than a month and I'm really panicking about getting everything we need now partly because they insisted on throwing such a late shower.
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Can you see where all the invites were sent to and make a FB rsvp option, just add your registry ? Or get all the addresses and make a cute “registry card”
Oh I k ow exactly how you are feeling and it’s extremely frustrating!! My MIL forgot to put where I was registered as well on my invites and as the weeks went by I watched literally nothing move on the registry..... that being said what I later found out was when people texted or called to rsvp they told them where we were registered. Most things were not purchased until 2 weeks before and a lot of people looked at the listed and found things on different sites so I still ended up getting a lot of what was on there. The mix up with calling it a sprinkle is super unfortunate. Hopefully everyone coming or that knows you guys will know it’s obviously not a sprinkle and an actual shower! I would refer to it as that in front of people so they know you consider it a shower. I would someone try to work it into a conversation with your MIL like oh how funny it’s a sprinkle is that what they are calling showers now days... just something to get her talking about why they labeled it that. Hang in there💗
Well I honestly dont know what a baby sprinkle is! I've never heard of it being called that! Lol! But if you know most of the people who are coming, maybe send them a message or email saying where you are registered? Have you talked to your in-laws about it? When I was pregnant with my first, my cousin threw me a shower. I pretty much got everything i THOUGHT i needed! Crib, changing table/dresser, bassinet, rocker glider, tons of bottles, diapers, wipes, clothes. I even decorated her bedroom. Pinkish/purple paint with Winnie the poo decals and trim. Guess where she slept? On my bed between me and her dad! She did like her swing and bouncer but hated sleeping in her crib or bassinet! I had my first 3 close together but theres an 8 year gap between my 3rd and 4th so I had to buy everything all over again. But it was all used or given to me so I still didn't need to buy much. Bottles and clothes. Diapers and wipes. And somewhere to sleep or nap.
Try posting on this app in the local feed and see if anyone has any baby stuff to give away or sell. Or try letgo. I have a ton of baby stuff i don't need anymore but unless you live in Minnesota, I don't think i can help!
You’re right, it should have been labeled a “shower,” and if there was any doubt, they should have asked first. That said, guests who want to shell out will ask where you’re registered anyway, so don’t worry!
I don’t think the name sprinkle will cause anyone to not buy you big ticket items. The main thing is to just get the word out that you are registered at amazon! I’m sure most ppl don’t know the difference between sprinkle and shower and know they are going to an event to help out parents-to-be!
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