Guilt about LO having ear infection.

I’ll preface this by saying I know every baby gets sick a lot in their first year. However, I’ve been feeling immense guilt lately. My LO is on her 4th cold and now she has an ear infection- all w/in the 3 months since she’s been at daycare. I feel guilty thinking that because I don’t breastfeed anymore (I’m in the very slow process of relactation but my supply is not improving), that that’s the reason she’s getting sick more frequently. I’m feeling so much guilt that she’s not getting any antibodies from me although I breastfed her for 6mos. Anything to help me feel less guilty?

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Trust me, that is not the reason she's getting sick. My son was breastfed and was sick for the first 6 months he was in daycare. It was cold after cold and RSV. Kids are germy. It sucks, but she's building up her immune system now.

She’s getting sick because of more germs in the air. None of my kids were breastfed and they were/are also in daycare and they rarely get sick! I guess I’m trying to say don’t beat yourself up over you’re lo getting sick, because it’s not something you can really control

That isn't the reason she isn't getting sick even tho that's what people might lead you to believe. None of my kids were breastfeed and my oldest never gets sick as my youngest was sick weekly at 1 daycare she was at. It's the germs in the air and how well their cleaning around the kids and how often and their rules on sick children my daughter was at this 1 daycare we paid for and she was there for 3 months and never gotten sick changed her to one that was free that they got there funding base on attendance. So they didn't care if they were sick and stuff she was sick weekly and they were pressing me to send her back or she would lose her spot when I wanted to keep her home to not get the other kids safe and for her to rest

You have to weigh your options. If there is a way to take her out of day are...vs the situation now.... Than okay.

But just like with the other commenters, there is no reasoning behind the guilt. There are more germs in the air and she's around more ppl than just those in the household

Daycare and schools are just petri dishes. Kids get sick. My kids got sick often every year (oldest in 6th) and didn't get sick all last year (full remote). First week in school and they got colds and per covid protocol were out for 2 weeks. Dr offices will all agree they get slammed back to school time. No reason to feel guilty

I am reading a baby book and it says most little ones in care will have some sort of crud (cold, RSV, ear infection) about half the time from September to April. Sounds like what you guys are going through is no fun, but it sounds pretty typical. Hang in there, mama! You’re doing great :)

I ebf and my kid got sick every week for like the first year when he started daycare.

Hate to quote a gimmick... But if it's one thing kids share it's germs.lol
Masks and cleaning doesn't always prevent those other pesky type things that have happened before covid.

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