Behaviour Issues

Mama's, I'm in need of some good advice😓🙌🏻!!

I took my daughter (almost 2 years old) to Northern Tikes today for a little daughter/mommy day...well I had no idea it would end up turning into a COMPLETE nightmare...😭
We took the bus to go there and the whole bus ride we were all smiles, super happy, wide awake, and well fed. When we got to Northern Tikes and actually went in the building I could see her mood change 100%...she went from being super happy, playful, and talkative to completely shut off, shy, and cranky!
We spent 5-10minutes in there, went down one of the blue slides once, my daughter was just screaming, SHAKING, tears pouring down her face, she was latched onto me for dear life, the poor kid just look terrified out of her mind, she started to hyperventilate...it was awful, I couldn't even get her coat and boots on I had to just grab out things and take her right out of the building...well it didn't even stop there, the whole way home it was just none stop crying and it took about 30minutes after we got home to finally get her to settle down a little....
It was extremely shocking for me to see her like that😓🙌🏻I tried EVERYTHING to help calm her down and make her feel okay and safe but NOTHING worked!
She hasn't really had many playdates or been around kids her own age due to COVID and lack of knowing kids her age...she has a little brother who is turning 7months and absolutely hates him🙃she won't even let us bring him near her without her completely freaking out, crying, and pushing him away or trying to physically hit him....she doesn't like ANY kids going near her, she loves any and all adults, but when a kid enters her view it's complete panic mode.

I have no idea what to do or how to help her! I want her to be able to get along and enjoy being around other kids but she's seems just absolutely terrified, has anyone else experienced this??? How can I help her get through this and get her to be okay around other kids and babies!?!?🙌🏻🙌🏻

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I feel for you, those moments where nothing works go get them to calm down are they absolute worst! My son is 22 months and when he was younger he was very afraid of other people and would be attached to me the entire time. We found that a couple of things helped: 1. We needed to give him the time to get comfortable. This meant that if we went somewhere new if he wanted to be attached to me for the first 15 mins then that’s what he needed. I found that when I tried to push him thinking to myself it’ll be fun, it only made it worst. He needed the time to get comfortable. 2. Exposure helps a lot, going to school has helped a ton but also us exposing him to more kids but always following step 1. 3. Just time and patience, once they get the exposure and the patience from us, things start to shift.

That was a though day, I feel you. My son is also 22MO this and he hates most kids. I took him to an indoor playground and the experience was very similar to the one you described, but the second time I took him to the same indoor playing he actually had a lot of fun, so I think it has a lot to do with the new environment. Understanding that, every time we go somewhere new I pick him up and give him a “tour” before I put him down, I also explain the day before and again before we leave the house where we are going and what we are gonna see and I find it makes him more confident.
I also have a 6MO, and just now he is starting to get along with little brother, but a very slow start, he gives little brother one of his cars to play, sometimes he touches his head and yesterday he gave him a hug(!!!!!). I was shocked! We try our best to not make things baby’s fault to avoid rivalry, for example we never say: can’t play now, I’m feeding ur brother, we say, give me 5 mins and we will play.

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

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!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

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