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Empty Nester

I just turned 47 this past weekend. All four of my babies are grown, moved out of the house and having babies of their own. I’ve been a sahm for so long, I don’t even know where or how to start. Why can’t there be a “friend store”? Lol. I live in Washington state not far from Olympia. Please, someone, I wanna go on an adult only play date and meet some more women. I’m not a full member so feel free to contact me at jvajtai at yahoo.
There has got to be other women out there that are moms to adult children, grand babies that they wished they could see more often, and an empty hole inside that could easily be filled with a girlfriend, long laughs and chats, tearful comforting, shopping, trail walks, and a cocktail now and then. Wanna be friends?

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I would love to be friends I am 45 years old. I live in Oklahoma,but would love to be friends. Between my fiancé and me we have 3 boys,3 girls and 5 grandsons. The kids ages range from 8 to 26. The grands are from 2 to 12.

Hi Christy! I’m happy to meet you. I will be visiting Oklahoma in September or October to visit my god-parents. I’ve never been there before. My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. We met on match.com! Lol. It works, who knew? 😂
I have 4 kids from my previous marriage, 3 girls and one boy. Between the 4 of them I have 8 grandkids, 6 boys and 2 girls ages 22 mo - 11. They are my heart! ❤️ All of my kids live in different states - Oregon, Idaho, California, and Colorado. So I don’t get to see them as much as I’d like. But my husband (who loves my kids and grands w/ all his heart) works hard to make sure I get to see them as often as possible. My husband doesn’t have any children of his own and has never been married before me.
I’m a stay at home wife, but we also help take care of my dad. He’s almost 72 and very active but when my mother passed in 2018, he crumbled and doesn’t want to be alone.
It’s nice to meet you.

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Bestie where are you?!

Hey I really need to make some friends being a mom is so lonely. Distance does not matter to me (I can’t see waves)

Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

If you DO NOT buy things second hand, it is mainly because:

Answer only if it applies to you.

Maternity leave Employment rights?

I have 6 weeks left of work and they have completely changed my job spec including my job title and all my responsibilities, they have done this ahead of advertising my maternity cover apparently to fit business needs which I am fine with but i explained as long as it doesn’t effect me before I go. They have now turned round and said they want me to do the training for it before I go and want me to sign a variation in contract asap. Are they allowed to do this? I thought you had the right to come back to the same job within 26 weeks and I haven’t even left yet and they’re changing it? I was going to see what the job was when I got back and go from there but now they’re wanting me to sign this change in contract before I go I don’t know what to do, do I have to sign it ?

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅