What was your “push present” and did you like it?

My husband bought me a pearl necklace from Tiffanys (influenced by his sister) and its horrible 😭 do I ask him if I can swap it for something I like more or would that be insensitive?! Im going easy on him as his previous offerings for birthdays and anniversaries have been roses from sainsburys, a heated blanket and bicycle lessons so this is actually a huge improvement!

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You all got push presents?!?! This is so cute! I got nothing lmao

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Haha ask to swap I would lol I got 2 handbags and a bracelet

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Id say be grateful he got you anything at all. It might not be what you'd chose yourself, but you didnt chose it - he did, for you!

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I got nothing too 🥲 my husband said our baby was my present 😆 he’s very hands on though so that’s much appreciated!

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I got a Michael kors bag and purse. I chose it myself. I did ask if I still get it though as I didn’t push as ended in a c section.

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My husband was so worried about this happing that he took me to multiple stores to make sure I really liked what he bought before he bought it 😅

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Push presents?.. can I get these now, even though my children are little older. Cause I want some 😂

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My fiancé has bought me a necklace with our little girls name on it

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I got a bracelet but we bought it together, it was spontaneous really. I just saw it and said that I loved it and he got it for me to say thank you 😊

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I probably got a Big Mac meal 🤣

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I got an eternity ring but we picked it out together

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I got an expansion pack for The Sims 4 😂

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If I got anything from my husband I’d just be thrilled he chose something for me without my input and would treasure it for that reason x

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FYI I got nothing so guess I’m a little bitter 😂😂

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I got a new makeup pallete and I just ordered part 2 at 6 month pp I got a breast milk ring

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My dad bought me a push present.. a TV lol I’m so grateful for it I love it so much PP 😂😂

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A 💍 ring 🥰🥰lucky me

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I got a maccies on our way back from the hospital 😂😂😂

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I got a maccies too 😂😂

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My push present was my daughter.

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Mine was 🌹, 🧸 and a gold necklace

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I got a bunch of flowers in hospital, does that count 🤣

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He bought me a pair of Calvin clein boots, they’re delicious 🥰

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To others this might sound silly but I loved it! My husband got my daughter and I matching stitch onesies. She is just about big enough to fit in it for her Halloween costume this year, still a little big for her but so cute 😍

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I got an eternity ring x

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I didn’t get anything, my birthday was the following day… didn’t get anything for that either not even a happy birthday 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄

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I didn't know push presents were a thing 👀, i'm just glad i got my babygirl here safely tbh, don't think i'd want a push present x

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I’d 100% keep it - even if it’s not the kind of thing you’d pick yourself it shows he’s made an effort with speaking to his sister plus Tiffany’s isn’t cheap! You can always buy yourself jewellery or necklaces in the future but if this has come from him following you giving birth it would hold some sentiment for him

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I found out my baby daddy was having an affair 😂😂 so keep it and enjoy the fact he isnt a total 🍆🍆 hahaha x

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I’ve exchanged so many things over the years that fiance has got me, but he’d rather I swap it for something I’ll actually wear/use, otherwise it’s a waste of his money just sitting in a draw untouched!
That’s a really beautiful gesture of him, and not your everyday necklace from asos etc! I’d personally tell him how grateful you are, if you don’t feel comfortable saying it’s not to your taste and if you could exchange, then you could word it as whilst you love the gift, if you could swap it for something you’ll wear more often as pearls aren’t really your everyday jewellery or something along those lines 😊

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Wait…this is a thing?! May have to mention this to my OH 👀

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I got a large Big Mac meal and I havnt had to go back to work since 2020 🙈 so everyday is my push present 🤣

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My other half didnt get me one so when he transferred his share of bills extra money over i bought myself a rose gold necklace with a little disc on that has her date of birth on and her initial

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My push present was my baby 😂

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What’s a push present?

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I got a handbag I’d wanted for probably 5 years, total shock! I would be honest and ask to swap it because it probably cost a lot of money and you want to be able to wear it, not keep it in a box if you don’t like it! Just go about telling him gently 😂 x

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Nothing

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something special for us to push the baby out 😂

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A gift the baby's dad gets you to show gratitude for carrying and birthing the baby. We didn't take it too seriously, I just got an extra birthday present. I know someone who got a boob job and vaginoplasty booked in for a year after the baby was born.

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that’s a thing?

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wow is a healthy child not enough of a gift? There’s something wrong with this “trend”

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I got some pretty pearls. But I was also showing them to him and he decided to buy some for me. This time all I want are some cozy socks !

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uhmmm. Our bodies are the only reason either of us got said healthy kid. The absolute nightmare we put our bodies through to have kids? I don't see anything wrong with your partner showing their appreciation for you sacrificing 3 years of your body to give them a single kid. Even if you BOTH want kids and wanted that pregnancy, what's so bad about them acknowledging the shit we put our bodies through and saying hey, thanks for this. I appreciate you and everything you did for us to get here. I got you something to remember this by, and show you i still love you and it's not all about baby. Gods know we mothers get forgotten about by everyone the second the cute kid arrives and everyone wants to see the baby. We often lose our identities after having kids and become nothing more than mom. Don't see any issue at all with this and idk how someone could.
My partner offered to pay for all my piercings to be redone that rejected or had to come out because of her. And a new tattoo once she's here. 😊

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But why does it have to be materialistic? I'd much rather my partner shows me appreciation through acts of service, helping me with recovery, helping with baby as much as possible, doing the cooking or cleaning and spending quality time together and being affectionate with each other. I would feel loved and appreciated from that, not from getting something that has been sat on my shopping wishlist for a while. People are too materialistic these days.
And even if we both did want the pregnancy and the baby I don't need a thank you and a gift at the end because I didn't have the child for him. I had it because I wanted the child.

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this!

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might just be me but I’d rather my husband help with the child than be out buying me stuff? The life you BOTH brought into the world is far more important than any materialistic gift!

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yes itz just a fancy thing 😂nothing serious M sure our partners appreciate us bringing the LO in this world.

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a gift your partner buys you for destroying your vagina 🤣

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😂😂😂so true I doubt we can ever heal back from birth .

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oh hell no once it’s done it’s DoNe! 😂

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