Worrying about toddler stage

Hi everyone,

I have quite a large black GSD. He is super friendly (sometimes too much) with people but reactive to other dogs. He likes A LOT of attention and because being a working breed needs a lot of exercise and mental stimulation.

My LO is now 4 months old and getting more active by the minute. In pregnancy i was so so anxious about how I would cope with the two of them, up until now it has been hard to manage them both, but im constantly worried about when LO starts to crawl. We dont have a massive house and a lot of space. We have babygates at the kitchen and to the entrance to the lounge. I dont want to have to keep the dog constantly in the garden whilst LO is crawling around but want LO to have the space he needs to do this.

AGH! Help! Anyone out there with big dog/dogs who have been through it?

TIA XX

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Thank you this is super helpful! Ill have to look at getting one of those! Xx

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I got that one on Amazon, it was right around $100

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I follow:

https://instagram.com/dogmeets_baby?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

Not all of it is practical as I have a small place and twins. But the gist is there and so far my dog does well.

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