2 girls, husband is driving me insane lol

I honestly am so touched out from my own husband interjecting himself. Our 5 almost 6 year old girl was crying because I had to wet her hair to brush it to take her to the store for a few household items.. she's crying & being hard.. because I'm the mother. Period. Idk how else to explain that. It's girl on girl.

Our younger who is 2 was screaming crying at 11am & had been teething it seems today. I give her Tylenol after breakfast (8:30am) bc she didn't really eat then ate great.

Needless my husband is in the bathroom for 1+ hour & comes downstairs to find me changing our toddler & I said "Oh my lord you've been a jerk all day dude. I love you so much but jesus" he took her immediately from me & laid her down before I had a chance to button her clothes.

He comes back downstairs & I'm now brushing our almost 6 year old daughter's hair. She's crying. It's been a rough morning where her sister has cried often. It happens! 🤣 idk what to say on that. But I feel you'll get what I'm saying. Keep in mind he didn't get out of bed until 10am.

He hears her crying and it's something that has always triggered him with me. He immediately goes off the railing screaming at me "WHAT ARE YOU DOING? YOURE HURTING HER!" & now I'm bullshit. To be frank.

Our kids are girls. Girls are going to whine and cry more.. but I'm also the female & I love them to no end but they are also female & clearly being hard on me right now.

I try & have a mature conversation with my husband who says "we are done" as he always does the moment he hears one of them having a tantrum & I'm the one dealing with it.

Honestly at this point I am done. It just sucks. It sucks the life out of me that God forbid once a week the kids are both running off eachother energy.. it's raining.. can't go outside.. I can list a laundry list of reasons why kids cry. I'm honestly like.. he's a POS. he can't handle the drama/ tantrums.

& in his eyes somehow they are beautiful perfect girls who didn't deserve me being hard back to them.. okay no. Full send no. My grandma & mom both had to be hard on me & that's my dad's mom.

I get that dad's can be fun ones.. but what the actual f.

Am I alone here? Has anyone gone through this where your relationship is deteriorating only because your husband can't handle the kids being bad? I need to know. I need support. I just vented to my mom about it & I know if I called my MIL she would ream my husband out for how he treated me but I'm so exhausted.

I work fulltime, I manage the sick days, sports, we are a team on household things. But it's just the kids. It's like.. if they are good great! If they are whining & upset & they are with me without him around to see why.. he flips out!!! Wtf do I do?

in our community

Old people are fucking rude and nasty

I'm deep in the toddler trenches. You ladies know how it is (unless you have an angel toddler, in which case what's it like living your best life?)

My toddler had a screaming fit in the supermarket today. She was overtired, I had no choice as I had to pick something up before going home. I'm already in fight or flight and obviously having a hard time. Tell me why it is exclusively only over 65s that are giving me the stank evil eyes and shaking their heads tutting (yes I actually got a tutting) as if I'm not already on the verge of breakdown myself?

Mind your own fucking business please. It's not my fault you are miserable and on the verge of death.

I've found on the whole most people who are younger extremely kind, minding their own business or giving me a kind smile, or allowing me to go ahead of them in the queue. It's only ever old fuckers who decide it's their god given right to judge me and make me feel worse

Respect your elders? They are the rudest, nastiest generation by a far mile.

Taking baby out

We went into a big augment with my partner because I said no to taking our 12wks baby to costco and because we have a trip booked soon after his 16wks immunisations, he keeps saying even he should not be on a plane because is more riskier 😲. Personally, I thought costco is so congested. He was suggesting we go on a weekend. Am I wrong?

Partner working a lot

I’m not sure if I’m asking for too much, my husband has his own business and it’s been busier than usual and short of staff. I’m a week from my due date and we have a 3 years old, which I stay home with. I’m just felling that I’m taking myself to the limit here! Now he tells me he’s not sure if he can take days off this week. I really appreciate his efforts as he’s the breadwinner but I also need support specifically at this stage of pregnancy.

Help entertaining my 1 year old?

I’m primary carer for my daughter as a SAHM whose partner works.
She loves the outdoors but in our yard atm all we have is a little tykes swing.
We live in a small town with one playground which the only option there is also a swing.
What can I put in our yard to help entertain her?

Can’t stand other people holding MY baby

Guys, is it just me or is it really hard watching other people holding the baby (family aside, most of the time)? I can’t stand it and have to leave the room when the grandparents/in-laws hold him. Otherwise when people ask to hold him, I’ve just said no, which obviously rubs people up the wrong way and then get comments like “you can put him down you Know” 🤬

My baby is 5 weeks old so still in my newborn bubble. I’m deliberately holding off visits because everyone only cares about the baby 😅 and is just desperate to hold him but I don’t want their hands on him. I resent the idea of playing “pass the parcel” with my baby, I worked so hard to get him here safely and he just seems to be a real novelty for family, friends, neighbours, random people I see dog walking…
Am I being weird? My mothering instinct is just so protective and I want him all to myself (&my husband).

P.S. I’m not inviting visitors round atm, this is just family, close friends. My husband invited two colleagues because he loves to show the baby off but I said enough is enough. Also, annoyed with people trying to invite themselves round even after me saying we’re not doing visitors atm.

do you keep your toddler on the potty until they go, or just try again later?

I’ve just started potty training my 18 months old baby. He sits on the potty without any problem. But for example, today we waited there for about 20 minutes and he didn’t pee or poop at all. I’m wondering what people usually do in that situation. Do you keep them sitting there until they go? Do you play with them or distract them somehow? Or do you just try sitting them on the potty for short times throughout the day and then take them off?

Also, do you still use diapers during this process? Today is our first day. Should I put a diaper on him on the first day, or should I just let him wear underwear and walk around the house like that?

I’m also a bit worried about him pooping in his underwear. Because of that, I’m thinking maybe I should put a diaper on sometimes and then take it off again. What would you recommend?