Old people are fucking rude and nasty

I'm deep in the toddler trenches. You ladies know how it is (unless you have an angel toddler, in which case what's it like living your best life?)

My toddler had a screaming fit in the supermarket today. She was overtired, I had no choice as I had to pick something up before going home. I'm already in fight or flight and obviously having a hard time. Tell me why it is exclusively only over 65s that are giving me the stank evil eyes and shaking their heads tutting (yes I actually got a tutting) as if I'm not already on the verge of breakdown myself?

Mind your own fucking business please. It's not my fault you are miserable and on the verge of death.

I've found on the whole most people who are younger extremely kind, minding their own business or giving me a kind smile, or allowing me to go ahead of them in the queue. It's only ever old fuckers who decide it's their god given right to judge me and make me feel worse

Respect your elders? They are the rudest, nastiest generation by a far mile.

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I understand the frustration of people not being very patient with screaming children. It is overwhelming for all who are present. I don't like hearing my baby cry as much as the strangers around me šŸ˜… but are you not being rude and nasty about old people here ? šŸ¤”

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Next time, look them straight in the eye and say "I'm not abducting her. If I were going to abduct one, it wouldn't be this asshole."

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I get it all the time in restaurants

ā€œMy child never acted that wayā€

ā€œMy boys were always so well behavedā€

Like yeah bitch cuz you threatened them or your husband beat them whenever you got home. I hate that generation and above so much

My dear friend is an exception. She always says ā€œkids are kids. They have big emotions and can’t always express themselvesā€

I had a waitress even tell my son that the cops would come and take me away if he didn’t behave himself. I was mortified. I wanted to punch her square in the face. My son was scared of police officers after that and it took a long time for him to understand they aren’t bad people

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Oh my gosh, I know exactly what you’re talking about!!! Hate this for us!

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I totally understand that kids are a pain in the ass sometimes, I live with them.

The attitude that some people (of all ages) have around children though is insane. You are entitled to a childfree life but not a childfree world.

I used to just smile and nod and take the unwanted critique of my parenting in public from older people but I’ve started politely pushing back. My favourite was boarding a plane with my little girl asleep in my arms, when an old woman made a nasty comment about not wanting THAT near her. I leaned in and said ā€œno need to worry, we don’t fly economyā€. The look of her face was šŸ˜˜šŸ‘Œ mothers have enough stress in their lives without being judged by other women who should understand how it feels.

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I ignore everyone around me when my child is screaming in public. Shift your focus.
Sounds like a stressful situation but you’re complaining about being judged while judging an entire demographic

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Yeah no fuck them old people I don’t care honestly šŸ˜‚šŸ˜­

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I live in the bible belt, so old biddies and cranky old men who LOVE to judge others are aplenty. I have found hissing at them like an opposum is the fastest and most effective way to get them to sod off.

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I'm deep in the toddler trenches. You ladies know how it is (unless you have an angel toddler, in which case what's it like living your best life?)

My toddler had a screaming fit in the supermarket today. She was overtired, I had no choice as I had to pick something up before going home. I'm already in fight or flight and obviously having a hard time. Tell me why it is exclusively only over 65s that are giving me the stank evil eyes and shaking their heads tutting (yes I actually got a tutting) as if I'm not already on the verge of breakdown myself?

Mind your own fucking business please. It's not my fault you are miserable and on the verge of death.

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