3 month old sleep arrangements

I feel like this is probably a stupid question but is it safe to leave your baby while they are napping at this stage? My 15 week old currently has a travel cot downstairs for daytime naps (outgrew his moses basket) and a next to me crib for night time sleep but I'm so scared of SIDS and won't leave the room at all when he's napping or sleeping so I'm basically stuck downstairs all day. Does anyone know if it's safe to leave him napping while I potter around upstairs or in another room? TIA x

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Do you have a monitor? But yes it’s safe if you follow rules of safe bed area / no blankets pillows etc and door a little open so you can hear baby but a monitor is best

Get yourself a movement or heart monitor! I wasn’t able to leave room even to the toilet but since we have the Angel monitor I am more confident and while still in one level of the house but I am cleaning and doing something for myself like face scrub and mask In a bathroom. With the monitor is so much better

Thank you for the replies, yes I have a video/audio monitor (which if I'm honest I haven't used yet) and a breathing monitor which I just use at night I hadn't even thought about using it in the day! X

I’ve always left him downstairs while I do other stuff. I would always go in and check on him every so often and obviously make sure safe sleeping etc.

I have recently got a monitor though so I have that on me to keep my mind at peace while I do other things.

I’ve left my son (now 6 weeks old) napping alone since he was a week old. I go out to the garage and do laundry, vacuum my house, clean my car out ect. I just leave my bedroom window and door open. I don’t have any monitors of any kind.

I leave my daughter to sleep alone without monitor but I live in a flat and if she cries I’d hear her. If something is wrong she cries so that’s ok

I was like this. I have got sort of a walkie talkie system so I can hear him. Helps the angst a lot. He is nearly 4 months and I only started this week. It feels great though and he sleeps much better being put upstairs in dark rather than in room with me so can keep an eye x

Yes I put mine feet to the bottom of cot with a tucked in blanket and just take the baby monitor

I always leave I use a baby monitor so I can see and hear her so I can stuff done or I’ll never get it done xx
Just leave him at the bottom of the crib and nothing in the crib (no blankets or anything xx
Go down occasionally to check on him xx

Never say never so be cautious but he’s most likely over SIDS now xx

I’ve started to relax about it now that baby is nearly 4 months and his behaviour is predictable, however I’m in flat so I’d hear him mumble

Thank you ladies ill get my monitor set up so I can potter around and leave him sleeping! X

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