Old ladies touching my baby in public.

So, every time we go to the supermarket one or two old ladies approach my baby and touch her hand or face without acknowledging me.

Does this happen to anyone else? What do you do if so? Or is it fine? Am I being over protective?

I don’t want to shout at an old woman or tell one off but my baby doesn’t really like it and I’m worried about the germs also. It feels rubbish that my baby has no say over these strangers touching her. Usually they walk away really fast afterwards so I can’t really talk to them about it 🤷‍♀️

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Ha, yep! They’re a menace to society!

Ive had it loads I just tell them please don't touch my baby, although once I'd had enough and the old lady that touched her I put my hand on her face, she gave me the dirtiest look and said "what was that for" I just replied now you know what if feels like to be touched by a stranger 😂😂 ( she'd done it a few times before) just a lady I see in the local shop sometimes x

people really need to learn boundaries especially when it come to babies, I know their cute but old people have no self control x

Politely ask them not to touch your baby!
If they keep touching your baby swat their hands away.

amazing, I’ll have to try that 😂

All the time. I once ended up having very stern words with an old lady as she woke up my daughter!! She was asleep in her pram and she came over and started waking her up ! Stroking her face and taking her blanket off ! I asked her what the hell she thought she was doing and she was like "there was no harm done why are you been so rude!" I said I'm been rude??? You've just woken up a complete strangers baby for what ??? You don't just go upto a baby and start touching it or waking it up ! Sge trued giving me a lecture on "youth of today" (I'm 32) so I proceeded to give her a lecture on waking sleeping babies. In the end she stormed off x

It’s your baby and your boundaries but in all honesty I would try not to worry too much about it. I know everyone is different but I just try to think about how fortunate our babies are that they weren’t born during the pandemic and can have that social contact with others outside of their own home. I did used to worry about it but I think older people love babies and new life brings them happiness. It did used to worry me but then I suppose things like all the dirty toys at baby groups and taking each others dummies are probably more likely to spread infection. I suppose it just depends on your reasons for no touching x

that’s terrible that she woke up your sleeping baby! That’s totally uncalled for! If my baby is awake and smiling and giving people eye contact I don’t mind them sticking their hand in the pram to engage positively with him and acknowledge him. A sleeping baby is totally different x

@Chelsey honestly I was fuming ! Same as you if she's awake I don't mind people saying hello and interacting with her as she's really social but I couldn't believe this woman when she woke her up ! X

Girl I feel your pain. All I can say is I've gotten faster at evading them! Spin move 😂

Happens a lot but I have to admit I find it quite endearing. My baby has had plenty of colds though so I am always a little nervous but if they just want a quick stroke of her forehead I don’t really mind - I guess she’ll be picking up all sorts at nursery! That said my baby loves strangers and definitely entices them over with a big grin - if she’s didn’t like it or was asleep I would probably just politely say she’s a little grumpy today and steer away. I do love how warm that generation are towards others especially babies x

I can confirm it was awful having a pandemic baby and not being able to show them off and so scared if someone tried to the look in the pram, my daughter is a March 2020 baby. So different with my 8 month old son I love it when people coo over him.
Would be furious if someone tried to wake him up though

We’ve just come back from 2 months in Thailand where literally everyone wants to hold your baby never mind a quick face stroke. We embraced it and our baby made loads of new friends. We took a photo of him with every one who had a hold so we have a little series of pics 🥰

I just pull my pushchair back and say he's weary of strangers and I've just settled him, im sorry!!

I’ve never had this happen, I must not have a very friendly face 🤣

Never happened to me. Everyone has always been super respectful and tell me my baby is beautiful or make faces at him but never touched him. If someone ever did I wouldn't care about being polite, you don't touch strangers so why is it OK to touch babies?

I don't let anyone touch my LG especially when she was really little. Just tell them straight I don't care if I offend them I don't know them x

I have toys hanging off top of the pushchair over my daughter so they dont get chance to get to her before i can walk off 😂😂

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