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Narcissist?

I think my child father may be a narcissist…. If you’ve been with/dealt with a narcissist could you just say the signs or things that he did and how you got out? It’s just small things he does when we argue that make me feel this way. Our last argument was over him liking multiple girl’s pictures after I’ve very clearly stated my feelings and boundaries on it, so I brought it to his attention and he turned it around on me and somethings I did. Later I asked why he wanted to bring up what I did wrong and not speak on it when he seen it and said “ somethings don’t need to be spoken on, sometimes you just need to see how thing play out “ anytime I try to get him to leave he’s always petty always wanting to take what he got me/bought us..

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That’s definitely a manipulator and a narcissist. They always try to hold control and throw you under the bus so it takes the attention off what he’s done and put it on you so he doesn’t have to deal with accountability.

I don’t think there’s enough that’s happened to determine if he’s a narcissist yet, but these are some of the red flags. Fights are complicated because everyone has defensive patterns that can be misconstrued for narcissism. His sounds like deflection. The petty thing about leaving is worrisome though. Make sure he knows you can’t be manipulated by these items. He shouldn’t try to control you and he’ll pay child support either way.

🚩 inflated ego and accomplishments
🚩will try to isolate you from friends and family
🚩once complimented everything you did and now criticizes everything you do
🚩always acts like the hero or the victim
🚩shows no empathy
🚩manipulation to make themselves look like the victim or like the righteous one

Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding.

Everyone has the capability to display narcissistic tendencies, however very few, and I mean very few people actually have narcissistic personality disorder. It’s a word that’s just thrown around these days. It’s more likely just manipulation/defensiveness at not wanting to be called out for shitty behaviour. Which the majority of people do in relationships. If you genuinely want to leave just be the bigger person and let him take what he wants. He’s probably just saying it to be petty anyway

idk about npd since there’s not much to go on plus i’m no expert but he defo does sound manipulative and if you have suspicions, it might be worth speaking to someone who may know better like an expert or a women’s charity etc. in order to figure out what to do, especially if you wanna get away from him

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Help!!!

Am I wrong if I secide to stop doing baths etc for my little ones. We have a 3 and 1 year old. I do all the baths wake up in ams cooking etc. I dont want them to be dirty but it's like I need a break and Im tired of doing it all by myself. He will come up and help after they are out the tub every now and then and that pisses me off. Im taking care of 2 littles one by myself makes no sense. I asked him to give them baths tonight he said I worked all day what did you do...ive had the children all day. We went to church he didn't go. We all know how little ones are.. but what should I do bcus it feels like I'm going crazy

Partner works incredibly long hours, how much do they help out?

I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

Heartbreak

After years of trying, months of back and fourth on the fate of our marriage, indecision, fights. The whole enchilada my husband and I are separating, divorcing. Whatever. I'm so goddamn heart broken. I feel like it's a death and I'm in mourning. We have a 3 year old son and currently and for the foreseeable we are going to coparent and live together. This makes things harder because neither one of us can really move on but it's how it is. He understands and he's trying to heal too. But I can't understand why now that things are over he can be kind. He's been more amazing in the last week since I ended things than ever. Why couldn't he do that when we were together for years I begged for change, we saw a counselor I tried everything and he just wouldn't. Now he seems to turn a switch and be able to just do it all. But it's too late. My heart aches. My body aches. Love sucks.

Am I wrong ?

My daughter’s 1st birthday was Thursday and nobody wished her a happy birthday from her dads family but his mom watched his story. Should I put my foot down and set boundaries for them to accept accountability or should I just let them stay on that side for as long as they want and not worry about it?

Tv good or bad

My 4 month old loves TV shows especially dancing fruits and baby TV is this a good thing or a bad thing at this age?

Skinny baby!

My little boy is 14 months and I think he looks so skinny😢

He was a really good eater but he got tonsillitis twice in 2 weeks so he lost a lot of weight due to not eating 😣 he’s still got eating great, he doesn’t like milk at all, not a big fan of cheese or bread so I’m stuck on what to give him.

He’s been referred to a dietitian because his BMI is low, for his age and height his BMI should be at 15 and it’s at 14.6, I can’t help but worry😢
Anyone else on the same boat?