Should your spouse take a vacation while you’re almost 8 months pregnant?

That’s completely selfish to be honest. It’s insane for him to leave you for that long while pregnant in general. But that far along? Nope.

Thank you for replying. Yeah I felt the same way and what I felt even more crazy is that his family finds nothing wrong with that they feel like he deserves this vacation and they are nice people and I never felt away against them until now it’s like you really can’t be that serious.

They’re obviously being oblivious and inconsiderate to the circumstances going on right now. If roles were reversed they’d feel the same way you are feeling. They need to empathize with you on this one.

yep they are living the life. All of them are there together and they fine no problem with the fact that I am almost 8 months pregnant not to mention high risk and I can’t take a lot of medicine of course because I’m pregnant so there’s a lot of things going on…. It’s like he’ll talk to me all day video me and everything and that’s supposed to be sufficient and I just got to a point where I was disgusted because I am struggling in this last couple of weeks of pregnancy but thank you again for replying. I just needed to hear somebody else besides my family who are obviously biased.

I wouldn't be comfortable with that either. My husband and I were just talking about how we're getting close enough that anything can happen (I'm also 8 months and high risk, and every time someone posts in my month group that their baby was born, it hits home how close we are). My husband is trying to cut down on Manhattan trips just to stay closer, I can't imagine having him out of the country. That would just be too far for me.

exactly I feel that it was a necessary at this late in pregnancy. I would have understood if it was a death in the family.
Or and emergency but it wasn’t anything like that. It was literally a trip that was put off and revisited at the wrong time. I have so many complications just walking sometimes is a lot and today I just had a breaking point. Thank you for replying.🥰

of course .. I hope you feel better. Take this time for yourself. Get a mani, pedi. Treat yourself to breakfast, lunch or dinner and focus on relaxing your mind during this time. It’s unfair to say not to stress about it because that is very much easier said than done.

Remember, you’re not overreacting and you are entitled to feel the way that you are feeling.

I don’t think so you need his support in any case you go in labor I think is extremely selfish his thinking in going on a vacation right now

I’ll be the odd ball out… depending on circumstances and the level of trust and commitment I have to this man and him to me, I wouldn’t be over the top upset. If we have other children and we have to get the stuff together and we haven’t ok… but a lot of women go on little vacations before the baby is born with their spouses… if you weren’t invited or even asked.. that id probably be a little eh about.. but men like women have emotions too.. jitters.. it’s a lot of responsibility that’s about to be bestowed upon him… I wouldn’t be mad for too long.. once baby comes it’s going to be about the baby for a while.. alot of men start to do silly things while the baby is here because they didn’t get to enjoy the last pieces of self before baby arrives.. could he have handled it differently.. maybe came home a day or two early.. sure.. but I wouldn’t harbor the anger for too long

I wouldn't feel comfortable or happy with my partner doing that.

My husband said that’s extremely selfish

No you could go into labour at 8 months. He should be here.
You can’t stop him going but you can find an alternative birthing partner who perhaps takes things a bit more seriously. That’s what I would do.

thank you so much for replying. Yes, that’s my feelings as well. People have babies before their due dates. Babies typically don’t wait until the time comes like they aren’t looking at a calendar and I tried to expressed us and it feels like it falls on deaf ears.

yeah I’m fine it was more the principal for me. I have my own family who have been extremely supportive, so I’m OK it’s just sit well with

exactly I didn’t understand why it was needed right now I felt like it was more his family going and pressuring him to golike I mentioned to other women on this feed it wasn’t a family emergency. It was just a delayed vacation that I felt should have been further delayed.

thank you so much for replying, especially because you have a different opinion…. And we don’t have trust issues, or infidelity issues or anything but I’m concerned about in that light it’s just principal for me you know…… as other woman on this feed have mentioned I could very well going to labor at eight months, and the baby wouldn’t even be unhealthy also, this time of pregnancy is extremely uncomfortable. What i factor in is all of the circumstances and I felt that it could’ve been postponed
I’m not as angry. It just made me look at the situation in a different life.

agreeed!

granted you could.. You can also and most likely will god willing go through the full process.. I said that to say… as much as we want to keep track of everything and everyone in our bubble.. you’re going to be a full time mama.. take every single opportunity to spend the time alone when you can because when it is time.. you’ll miss the “me” time.. I’m glad to hear you don’t have trust issues with him and you trust him as he you.. I’m also glad that he called and video called you.. he just didn’t leave you in the wind to be alone with your thoughts to think… so far you haven’t gone into early labor.. and although pregnancy is uncomfortable it will be over soon..I big you good luck and blessings for the baby to come.. god willing yall have moved on and are in bliss again