Feeling like I’m failing

Hey guys, I need some advice or some positivity here!
My daughter is 5 months next week and she has her first tooth coming through! Yay! But for the past month or so she has become so wary of family whenever I go to visit! She screams, won’t settle, cries the whole time. I went for my birthday to celebrate and I had to leave because she just would cry looking at anyone :( it’s so hard because she used to be so good with anyone!

Will this change or is this just the way she is? I try to see them as often as I can, and my MIL is looking after her in two weeks overnight and part of a day and I’m petrified of what’s going to happen, that she’s going to scream. My poor MiL 😭. I’m a very calm and collected person and I don’t get worked up when she does react this way… I just feel so sad and down that I can’t be with family and that my poor girl is scared. I give her so many cuddles, milk, toys, going to a quiet room, but she just doesn’t settle 😭

Please someone say this is a phase and there is light at the end of the tunnel ?!!

With the weather getting nicer I just feel we are going to miss out on so many lovely family memories

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I think this is just a phase x

It's definitely a phase lovely! If you look into the wonder weeks app it describes exactly this and explains why it's happening too 🥰🥰

So sorry to hear you’re going through this lovely but it is just a phase I promise! My daughter had a spell of it when she was 5 months, it’s when they’re starting to work out relationships and start to have some stranger anxiety and clinginess - I highly recommend the wonder weeks book (and website) it gives so much insight to what they are going through and helps you understand and help them through it! Hang in there 🩷

The 4th mental leap that causes sleep regression can also cause fear of you leaving, and of strangers and make them super clingy. It's just a phase!

Definitely just a phase. My daughter has been in it since 12 weeks and is only really enjoying people again now. It is really rough going but maybe just take it one person at a time. I find my little girl is most comfortable with strangers when they're in our house and they interact with her from my knee first

This is definitely just a milestone around 5-6 months babies become wary of people who they don’t see all the time don’t worry to much x

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