When to have sex after birth…

Ladies, I see this post at LEAST 5 times a day.

Please wait the minimum of 6 weeks until you try having sex again after giving birth. It is not about “how you feel” it is literally the time needed for your body to heal. You have a gaping wound the size of a dinner plate where your placenta was attached that needs to heal.

Inserting anything before the 6 weeks puts you at serious risk of getting an infection.

Wait the 6 weeks and THEN listen to your body on how you feel after that.

If you want to ask questions like: “how long did it take for you to feel comfortable having sex again after birth?”
“What helped you get back to enjoying sex?”
Or anything along those lines, go for it.

But please stop asking if people waited the 6 weeks, I will start removing those posts because it is a medical risk and question that only a medical professional can answer.

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Thank you for posting this! Along with being annoying, it really breaks my heart when I see these types of posts.

Our bodies are SO amazing! They deserve the utmost respect. The best thing you can do for yourself after giving birth is talking care of yourself and allowing yourself to heal 🌱 💛

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I waited 2 months and still didn’t feel comfortable then. It’s a red flag when your husband/boyfriend can’t wait at LEAST 6 weeks because they are exposing you to germs and infections with the large wound in your uterus. They can use their hand, it’s not life or death. It’s also dangerous for your body to be pregnant back-to-back. Your risk for miscarriage increases.

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There’s a lot of mums on here with dogs for partners, I swear. I’ve seen mums saying he would only wait a week! 😔 prioritising our health and well-being is the most important thing to care for our babies, not him getting his rocks off and getting infections and burst stitches 😞

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After i had my 1st, 14 years ago, i waited 8 weeks. This time, its been 4 weeks and i probably will wait at least 4 more. #1 i didnt realize the placenta wound thing although it makes sense and #2 if they cant wait, theyre not worth being with..period.

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What helped you get back to enjoying sex

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https://bit.ly/intimacyevolutionblog
My second blog post is my step-by-step process that helped me and what I’ve shared with my clients. 🤍

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I’m the one that jumped right into it after 4 weeks! I could not wait any longer 😂 I’m sorry.

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Yup, I waited 3-4 months but that’s just cuz I didn’t wanna do anything while my stitches were still healing (took a long time to dissolve) but also your cervix is still open for awhile; it takes a while to close and so with it being open it can cause bacteria from sex to be able to travel up there and give you a terrible infection, not only that but if you get pregnant during healing you could possibly end up with a failing pregnancy or have some medical issues when it comes to fetus and yourself. So yes, it is extremely important to wait. If you want to have sex, you can do other things besides vaginal sex

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I want to have sex again but I'm waiting the full 6 weeks and to be signed off by the GP untill my partner wants to do it again. I do want sex. And am anxious to do it again. It yes... I'm waiting the full 6 weeks.

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I did not wait long at all. No pressure from outside, I just didn't want to wait any longer. Now I feel like I should be ashamed of it though 😅

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How long do I have to wait if I had a c section? Is it still the same amount of time?

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no shaming, but definitely a question that comes up a lot. Women are told to wait 6 weeks but are rarely told why and the repercussions of what could happen if they don’t. It’s about educating so women are aware and can make informed decisions 🤍

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I’ve waited 5 weeks after my c-sectiom and then i’ve got infected with mixed anaerobes🙄🙄so next time defoo i will wait

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We waited the 6 weeks and it hurt like crazy cause I had a tear. We waited 8 months and it still hurt then, but less. Finally tried again after she was 19 months, and it no longer hurts. Things take time to heal, especially on me; I tend to take twice as long to heal compared to the general populace.

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I'm less than 2 weeks postpartum and finding my partner irresistible. I have a first degree labia tear with sutures and will most-likely need to wait longer than 6 weeks for them to heal..

Is anyone else having a hard time taming your libido post-partum? I wasn't expecting to be so horny!

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We waited 8 weeks but then after that it was atleast another couple of months

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It took me about 4.5 months with my first son to truly feel any type of desire to have sex or any nature of sex. I had a c section and I was really scared about my c section cut opening up from positions. Took it really slow

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I waited 6 months

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Just do it when you feel it confront I had a C section and i couldn't lay down until a couple weeks after i felt better dont remember tbh i know for sure it was before my daughter was 2 months

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you have a baby size wound on the inside you can’t see it’s to prevent infection

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They literally have to pull the placenta off and out of your uterus. thats like having a huge scab and picking it off. The uterus is an amazing organ.

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if I remember it says why in the discharge papers, but let’s be real, who actually reads their papers.

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The advice in the UK is that you can do it whenever you feel OK 🤔🤨

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3 for me 😂

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hey I just wanted to update you! I’m 12 weeks today. no infections. and I’ve been getting my shit railed multiple times a day. you should try it!

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I went through and removed all of her comments. Completely unnecessary behavior and I specifically state in the post to not post any unsafe or misinformation.
Thank you for being an advocate for proper postpartum care 🤍

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I was told 6 weeks I had a baby on the 28 of October and this time by husband is sticking to it 🤦‍♀️

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Congrats on your sweet bundle! 🤍 That’s so tough, because that’s the only information guys receive. 😓. Here’s a blog post I wrote that talks about transitioning back to sexy time after having a baby. And I think reframing the “all clear” means you’re able to get back to more movement, taking a bath but penetrative sex is not always desired by the mom but the connection part with their partner is desired. So hopefully this helps to open up that dialogue for you two.

https://www.intimacyevolution.com/post/bringing-sexy-back-how-to-enjoy-intimacy-after-baby

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😂 This is a joke. Some women bounce back. Am I saying that women should pop it on back after being ripped open internally and externally? Absolutely not. But a doctor putting a time frame on when our bodies actually heal? BULLSHIT.
Our bodies need a minimum of two FULL years before our bodies even feel sort of the same and that doesn’t include breastfeeding hormones! A normal woman would wean her young naturally around 5-6 years of age and technically speaking that is when we should have another!!
To say it’s wrong to give birth and not give into desires before a doctor says, is brainwashing at its finest. One should create a sterile environment, use a condom, and have sex similar to a medical procedure and if she is in pain, stop immediately. Let nature tell women what to do, not a sterile technician.

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