MIL drama

Sorry in advance for the long post but I really need to rant! For a little background my partner is 24 has a son from a previous relationship. I have always felt like my MIL has always thought that I am a second choice. My partner had a graduation last year (before having our little) and he had limited tickets to go, he obviously had his family go but gave his last ticket to his baby mama because his mother said she deserved it more than I did since she picked up his slack in watching their child from needing to graduate the academy. I was obviously hurt by this not only by my partner but my MIL too, I try to never hold grudges but this one just seems to stick no matter how much I try to talk it through. My MIL came over to see my baby a few days after our child was born and upon walking into our freshly moved in house that wasn’t totally ready yet, cause we were not expecting baby for another 4 weeks she immediately says “wow you guys really need to clean up in here.” As if that wasn’t bad enough she goes into the kids room and looks at me and says that she HAS to redo it because she “doesn’t like it” and it’s “not symmetrical” My partner redid the room without me when I was taking a nap to satisfy his mother and it still was not good enough for her. Fast forward to about a little less than a month of having a new baby- she expects us to bring him to her and will never come over. Which after the last time she came over and just complained how our house was set up I was okay with it. She expects to see him every week and when she sees the baby she won’t give him back even after being asked by either one of us and says no because she never gets to see the baby. Yet before having a baby she never cared to see me at all. This has caused some tension between me and my partner lately because I don’t want to go to his Mothers house as much because i don’t feel respected or listened to. He asks me why I don’t like his mom and i’ve told him that is ABSOLUTELY not the case, I do get annoyed because of lack of boundaries with her but I have tried everything to get some sort of boundaries. Anyone have ANY advice or any similar situations? It would be so much appreciated

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last month

I would never accept that. Tell your partner either he puts a stop to it or you will, his choice

last month

No offense but he needs to grow up and put his foot down with his mom. 🤦🏻‍♀️😒he’s really disrespecting his relationship to please her. Also if she doesn’t want to give ur baby back after you ask I wouldn’t let her around my baby anymore due to simple respect as you are the mom not her

last month

Your partner needs to have your back , he should never have given the last ticket to his graduation to his ex regardless of how much his mummy wanted him to your his partner now your the person that should be at his graduation not her When you baby was a month erly and your house wasnt show home ready just after moving in when you clearly thought you where going to get more time to get things ready befor baby came making a comment that isnt anything other then what can i do to help or you guys have a lovely home is innapropreat But having to re arange YOUR babys nursary to apease mummy dearest is bullshit and you need to put that room back how you like it its your home not hers and your baby not hers

last month

It sucks that you are going through this especially during a very exhausting and emotional (and special) time. Personally, I feel your partner should be standing up for you. He should also stand up to his mother and not condone her demands/behavior. It's clear that she's in the wrong in these situations. It's very important that your partner is there to support you and your needs right now. The mil sounds like she lacks consideration and either is not aware or just being selfish. I think the only way to resolve this is by having a discussion with your partner. You guys can possible come to an agreement with certain things and make sure it's followed through by working as a team and not against each other. Good luck lovely 🤎