How do you split care with your partner?

My husband is working. When he works from home, he takes care of our 8wk old son from 8pm-1am and I do the rest of the time. I might get a nap in the morning if my husband’s meetings start a bit later.

Doing it this way allows us a block of sleep each. I wondered if this was too much for my husband? I don't think I could go so long without that block of sleep though

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You are very lucky Ms.Hannah. My husband works that 8 hour shift 6 days a week. So when he gets home it’s honestly not really

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My daughter is 4 weeks old and I pretty much do it all myself apart from the odd help with a feed here and there. My husband works shifts and can start at 2am so his shifts can be a killer and will need sleep when he gets in

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My partner is an airline pilot and he works mad shifts. When he’s working I do it all, when he isn’t working we split it 50/50. The other night he got home at 1am and took over straight away.

He sees it as my time with the baby is also working and so when he’s present we should be sharing the workload. I’m immensely grateful (that day id been up with the baby since 4am the day before and I’d had my arms full for over 24 hours) and appreciate that different partnerships do things differently.

This works for us! X

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We take it in turns to do night feeds and we both get a night a week on our own in the back bedroom so we can catch up on sleep. And when he's not at work we split it 50/50. We're also splitting my mat leave so he'll get the last 4 months off with our LO. We spoke about it being equitable before we tried for a kid. I don't think I could have done it without. Don't feel guilty, get your sleep! Looking after a new born is well harder than being in work!

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

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Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

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