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Ranting about my baby's dad

Why do men promise to do stuff and then just bail. I've been trying to move into the bigger bedroom since I got pregnant. I'm due June 26th, and it still hasn't happened. I obviously can't do it myself even though I really want cause, then I know it'll get done, at least. We were supposed to do it today, but it's almost midnight and still hasn't been done. We live in an apartment, so I don't want to do it anymore because it's rude to our neighbors next and below us. I have a feeling it's not gonna be done until after I give birth, and it's gonna be rushed to hell. I just wish my baby dad had more initiative to just get it done and it be over with.

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I can’t speak from experience because usually my husband helps me. But honestly I have to ask. Does he help around the apartment at all or do you do must the work? My husband has always been willing to move stuff around because he knows if he doesn’t help I’ll hurt myself doing it myself 😅 if he can’t help or isn’t home I call my sister and her boyfriend to come help.

@McKayla He helps very little around the house, I'm actually the only one working right now he just recently finally decided to get a job bc all I do is bring it up to him. I have tried to talk to him about this, and he says he'll get better, but actions speak louder than words.

Wow. Yeah he doesn’t seem to care. :/ I have had many guys say they’ll do better but never did. :/ Hopefully he actually does change for the better. Nothing worse than being in a relationship where you do EVERYTHING on your own.

@McKayla, yeah, he keeps blaming it on his mental health, but if his friend needs help, he automatically gets up to go help him. I can understand that sometimes your mental health can get bad, but all it feels like it that I'm not his priority or his daughter isn't either. I grew up in a household like that, and I now don't talk to dad. If he doesn't get better, I might leave him. I don't want to, but I can't have my daughter grow up not being important to her dad. I just don't know what to do.

No I totally understand my ex who I was with for 3 years was the same way. Luckily I never got pregnant with his child but I was working 10-12 hour days to pay all the bills, buy all the food, pay my car loan, both our insurances for our cars etc. he had the balls to ask me when I broke up with him if him and his new girlfriend could have my house and car 🥴 like wanted me to leave all my stuff besides my clothes for them. I left him so fast and changed my locks. No man is worth the stress of feel unloved

@McKayla He's finally doing something, but it's almost 1am. He even had the nerve to ask if I'm okie. No, I'm not, I'm pissed.

I would’ve lost it. My anger issue control has gone out the window since getting pregnant.

I most just cry more lol

I feel that to 😂

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Cancelling Easter…

So my step son (11) lives with us full time we’ve started with an issue of him stealing little stuff from school, taking his brothers clothes from his mums here without anyone knowing ect but now
He’s also got the habit of taking chocolate and crisps out the kitchen to the point of he’s eating all my 1 year olds snacks like the 6month+ wafers and then he’s got no snacks. I’m buying loads of stuff to last us the month and he’s going through them within less then a week 🫠 (he never gets told no to snacks either unless it’s just before a meal then he gets told to wait until after hes ate)
He has now gone through all the chocolate we hid for Easter that was also his two little brothers and he’s gone through the stuff my mum brought round for them. So now iv got just over a week with hardly any money to try and get all the Easter stuff back. We’ve sat and spoke about it and why he feels like need to just take and we get a “i don’t know” or “it’s just snacks”

My thing is should I re buy him Easter stuff or leave it as a “you’ve already had you Easter early behind our backs” he’s not missing out completely because he has Easter at his mums but I feel like there’s nothing more we can do other then put locks on cabinets so he can’t get in them but that’s just stopping him from getting to the thing he wants not necessarily him learning 🤷🏻‍♀️
My partners just in that “can’t be arsed” “just replace it” where we have 1 child together and 2 step children and a baby on the way so just constantly going out and replacing stuff really isn’t happening ☹️ he’s agreeing with not giving him anything for Easter but I feel guilty about it but he has teqnically had his Easter + more…

We have also spoken to his mum about it and she just says she has locks on the doors and she did it as a kid and laughs about it which just feels like shes validating what he’s doing.

Sorry for the rant just wanted to see other people opinions and views as I feel so guilty to cancel Easter for him but at the same time we don’t have the money to re buy everything he’s gone through 🫠

How would you handle this?

6 year old ordered something on my phone and I was charged $70 for it. 🥲 she said she didn't know and all that jazz. Was apologetic. Says she asked me blah blah.

Weaning

My baby girl is almost 7 months old and we've been trying to wean her for a month, but she refuses to eat the food she'll play with the food and maybe if we're lucky suck on some of it. Am I doing something wrong or is this normal

Just a rant

Being a primary parent sucks sometimes.

I love my daughter more than anything but I feel this world is not built for primary parents.

I work from home (thankfully) part time. My partner works full time but he's in meetings or calls all day.

My daughter has a medical condition which causes her to be sent home from nursery frequently. So it isn't unusual for me to be working, parenting, cleaning and cooking all in one day.

I'm exhausted. I can't have any more dependants leave because I'm only a couple of more incidents away from a disciplinary. We aren't in a financial position for me to quit work either.

The world wants more babies, but isn't prepared to support mothers or primary parents. It sucks.

Feeling guilty for resting

This may sound silly but if I ever get a chance to ‘rest’ or have 5 mins to myself i have this guilty feeling that i should be doing something baby related? Am I the only one?

I have always been quite an organised person so when it comes to babies nap time I don’t usually have any tasks to do. For example, he’s having a nap right now and I’ve made myself a cup of tea and sat down on the sofa, and I feel like I shouldn’t be doing this. Am I being silly ?

How do you know when to leave? (long post)

My daughter's dad and I have been having more and more issues. Sometimes when I think about it, I wonder what I should do. I stay home with our daughter while I am trying to find a job that pays enough for her care and to help with bills. So at the moment I rely on him financially. But some of the things he does and says lately have been making me think this isn't healthy and we either need to split up or maybe try therapy for our daughter. He doesn't show love unless its for sex, he will grope and rub against me thinking its a turn on ( its not). He expects so much of me but doesn't appreciate anything I do. He barely takes care of our daughter, he has maybe changed 15 diapers in her two years of life. Lately I just feel like a maid or servant. In his mind the world revolves around him and only him. He is the most important thing around. So he things. If I try to talk to him about something that bothers me he calls me emotional and says a really fake sounding sorry. He doesn't ever seem to care if he makes me upset. If I get angry he starts laughing and pokes at me to get me angrier. He acts like I am here to serve him and that's it. He has anger problems, he can go from 0 to 100 in 5 seconds. Never physically violent but sometimes a little verbally to me. We have some really good weeks and even months but then we will have a horrible few days and it makes me question everything.

Sorry for the ramble but I know other people have been in this situation and I just want others advice and thoughts. My daughter loves her father and the idea of having to share custody makes me physically ill. I can't imagine being away from my child. I would love to work through it. But I don't know if something like therapy would help.