I hate him

For starters, stop calling him you’re other half bc that is you belittling yourself because that man is not the other half of you and definitely not a better half. You need to leave this man this is all too toxic and he needs to seek therapy because he sounds like he’s living a bitter and miserable life himself in his own head. I’m so sorry that you have to deal with any of that, that’s complete bs!!

Leave him it’s not worth your energy

Everything you are saying to me are red flags that you needs to exit that.. you don't need that your mental don't need to take that on and your baby do not need to see that your behavior. He's the cunt and stupid ungrateful, inconsiderate bitch (excuse my words) but men that can't deal with having to hold there Piss while laughing can go sit down somewhere. Your not fat your beautiful you doing the damn thing working and taking care of your child. He's selfish and don't feed into his words he's the big dunce. You do have friends welcome to Peanut mama

He's abusing you emotionally and mentally. GET OUT of this TOXIC RELATIONSHIP before your children think its acceptable and normal. They will fall into the same pattern and think it is normal. If you don't do it for yourself do it for children. Record him being verbally abusive. Also I hope he does not smoke up in the house it is so bad for your childrens brain development and lungs.

Hope you’re ok. You deserve better. Your sanity should be a priority and he will make you insane x

No wonder you hate him, I hate him too! Honestly girl, you probably know it already but you need to leave him. You’re in a mentally, emotionally, verbal and psychologically abusive relationship.

When you say he’s taken photos to blackmail you with - do you mean nudes?

Are you in the UK? If so please contact Womens Aid. They will be able to help you plan your escape. Sending you strength, nobody deserves to be treated like this 💜

Girl leave him!! He is not worth your peace, your time and energy!! You don’t need that and damn sure don’t need the stress.. PPD is real.

If I said to you, tell me 3 things you like about him and 1 reason why you love him. What would you say?

Fuck him!! This made me so angry reading this 🤬 he’s an ungrateful pig; I’m so so sorry that you’re going through this. So many shitty men get away with this (mine included) because they know we want a family and for our kids to have both parents so they take advantage. You are doing an amazing job! I hope you have the strength to pull through whatever you decide to do 🤍

What would you say to your sister or best friend if their partner treated them like this ?

https://youtu.be/zgmQHz0OqCE

What evidence does he have to show social services? Is it tangible? X x

Honestly I got 3 paragraphs in and decided not to waste my time. Stop wasting yours.

such a rude and insensitive comment. This app is supposed to be a comfort for women who silently face abuse and have nobody to talk to, not somewhere they get more abuse. Say something nice or don’t comment at all.

I agree , what a horrid thing fo say.

He sounds really angry at life and is taking it all out on you cause it’s easier than him taking it out in himself! Dickhead is the correct word you’re right.

He’s trying to break you cause he’s broken and he wants you rock bottom with him cause he’s a victim and can’t sort his own little man child problems out. You gotta get out of this one, it’s only gonna get worst for you and your kids! He’s very toxic and manipulative.

do me a favor and remove yourself from this woman's post before I say something everybody thinking about you... Thank you and have a blessed day!!

Sounds like emotional abuse and he wants to make your self esteem low (narssacist). I would say run! You deserve better💕

Exit immediately because it will get worse and take proper steps. I don’t condone child support immediately, but mama… it’s time. Record him verbally abusing you, get a protective order, go for full custody or supervised visits and get vouchers for child care. That is insane, you deserve so much more than that. You need to always remember, if you’re not good then how can you be good for your little one. You are your baby’s super hero, and a mama bear, so show them how we act. I need you to get tired, don’t show that man any weakness, never let him see you sweat or cry. You got this mama, please update us 🥺❤️

This sounds like my ex husband. I’m so sorry you are going through this. For your children’s sake, it sounds like it’s time to get a divorce. I know the deep down. You know that no one should be treated that way and it is a terrible example for your children to watch and grow up around.

I hope you’re okay 💓 be strong for yourself and your baby , you do not deserve to be treated like this. I’m so sorry you are going through this girl I’m sending you a big hug . This is not your other half at all he sounds very manipulative you deserve so much more than someone like him.

If your strong enough leave you deserve so much better and your babies deserve to see you treated like a queen

So many truths in here. He is a narcissist. He thrives on bringing me down. He portrays this fake nice persona to the outside world but in reality is such a horrible selfish person.

the reason he threatened social services was because one night I couldn’t calm the baby - I think he was teething and I had been trying for over an hour. He would come in to criticise me and shout at me for being useless and doing nothing.

He then had a try and was at it for over an hour too. By that time I was scrolling on my phone so he took a picture of me to evidence that I didn’t care about the baby !?!?! Just stupid shit.

Another time I lost my temper with him and hit the bed next to him while holding a juice carton. The carton exploded and went everywhere and he filmed me and the mess saying look at her explosions. When he is the one constantly exploding.

He has recorded me having private convos with my mum about how miserable I am and considering a divorce. He sat in the dark at 3 am.

I honestly wish I was stronger. I’m fearful of what would be - should I leave. He is unwilling to cooperate at the best of times. It will only bring out his worst and he will try to take my children. That’s what I’m most scared of.

Plus his parents would have endless funds to pursue it and it seems like
A horrible stressful situation to put the kids through.

I don’t mind being alone with them. It would be hard in some ways but with how he is. Probably for the best.

Yesterday my 15 month old had a pretty bad head injury at nursery. When he woke in the middle of the night I got my partner to go to him. Which just made things worse. As he was stressy and angry. He was trying to pick fights with me out of nowhere. I ignored him. But when you are holding a baby and trying to calm him
And coming after me. The baby isn’t going to be calm. As soon as I took him he was fine and dozed off.

Oh he’s got nothing on you. Hit the bed 🤣 judges ain’t stupid, they deal with this all the time.

You’re with him cause you’re scared to leave him cause he’s got into your head and told you life without him is worse.

Cause truth be told he can’t live without you, narcissists need they’re fuel somehow and when he puts you down it gives him a boost, hence why he does it so often.

You’re literally in the worst case scenario you will ever be in right now. No scenario other than the very one you’re in now will be as bad as this, he’ll just make it seem that way for a time only to scare you.

Watch Dr Ramani on YouTube about narcissists and how to deal with them. Sounds like you need all the help you can get. But honestly, don’t fear him, he uses manipulative tactics cause he can’t use truths and logic. Which is, he’s the dick!

Please leave immediately and make a new life for yourself x

He likes the feeling of being in control and he likes that he can manipulate your thoughts, feelings and life to suit himself. The way you’ve described him is how my mother raised me and acted towards me. I know my fair share of abuse. He has insecurities and issues with himself so he’s pushing it onto you, if he’s not in control, he freaks out. He doesn’t love you, he loves having a doormat to bully. He knows you won’t retaliate to him so he keeps doing it. He uses social services to scare you to make sure you don’t leave, if you do he doesn’t have control over you anymore.

He told me he wants me gone after my pregnancy tonight so. It’s done. We are over. Can’t help but feel stupidly upset. Mainly because I have so many regrets

He’s says that now, but don’t be surprised if when you try to go he’ll be swooning you back.

Be firm and put yourself first. Try and put yourself around positive people who value you. He will drain you mentally and physically. I’ve experienced this before, break free. Even get therapy if needed cause it’s hard, but you can do it.

Are you UK? If so pls contact a solicitor immediately and tell them all of this and get advice. You will be ok. He is harassing you. In the uk you are entitled to stay in the house and him continue to contribute. He deserves being kicked to the curb. X