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Rant sons dad

Hey ladies,

So I separated from my LB dad around 6 months ago.

Since our LB was born it was the beginning of the end for us. I tried so hard for 18 months to make it work, but I realised I was the only person trying.

There is a million reasons I ended the relationship but the main ones been he massively let me down during my postnatal depression, lack of empathy and understanding, never felt heard, selfish and honestly a man child.

Since we separated he sees his son every Sunday 10-4 at his mums. Its his mum that looks after him. His mum has even told me she doesn't trust him alone with him, as he struggles to focus on more than one thing.

It is clear my son dad has additional needs (autism) and I think this makes it harder for him to be a dad. It is clear he really struggles with this but what gets me more is he doesn't try.

Whenever I try and communicate about our son he makes it about our relationship. I know he loves our son, but honestly his lack of actions does not show this.

Every couple of months, he also brings up the relationship agsin and its honestly all just draining.

All I want is for him to step up for his son and be a dad, and I feel like im banging my head against a brick wall.

Suggestions or advice appreciated