Talking with partner

Make a list of dates and WhatsApp him at work or put the list on the fridge and ask him to look at it. Put the dates in his calendar in his phone with alarm reminders

I dont understand this at all. If you are awake and not at work, then you can and should be talking? Sounds like he need to get a grip honestly.

What does he do for work? I know a few people that work long hours and still make time for family the weekends. I have a few friends that have demanding jobs, they always put their fun/smiley face when having dinner with family every night despite long days. Is about loving their family enough to make an effort, maybe not every day since he's knackered, but at least the days he's not working

Write everything down you want to discuss and tell him to book a time in with you to go through it.
If it’s dates etc that have already been decided / booked in then I recommend the app TimeTree. It’s a shared calendar so you both have it on your phones. Then you can put all the dates in (we all have our own colours so it’s easy to see who’s doing what) and then it’s his responsibility to check it. You get a notification every morning with the days events on

Thanks all! Super helpful replies and that app sounds great!