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My boyfriend cries… a lot

We’ve only been together for about 8 months.. I’m 12 weeks pregnant. He professes his love for me often and I am totally secure in our relationship. He however expresses great concern that he isn’t good enough for me and really gets bent out of shape for little to no reason. He cries when he talks to me about what he’s feeling. At first I thought it was sweet and sensitive and then it kept happening and I’m now just kind of like what the heckkk is going on here. I love him I am carrying his child we plan to get married he has full access to my phone. I don’t know how to make him secure in our relationship.

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It sounds like he has self esteem issues that have nothing to do with you and would benefit from therapy. Sounds like some possible codependency going on as well.

Yep therapy there’s nothing more you can do

It starts at crying, then turns to invading your privacy, questioning your every move. Which then turns to accusations and yelling. Possibly goes in the deeper levels of abuse later. Therapy. You need to know the root cause. If he's been hurt before it can be repaired. If you don't have a root cause, then you can't really fix a problem if you don't know where to start.

I was with an insecure guy-man/boy for 10 years it’s their issues with them not feeling good enough with them selfs encourage him to take a class in something independent from you and that you can eventually do together!

I had to leave because my relationship got to toxic but issues are still the same

THIS! My ex started off crying when he did wrong and I brought something up to his attention, then he became manipulative, deceiving, and abusive!

that's the process used. It happens slowly, so you begin to think it's your fault. Gaslighting. Emotional abuse.
Then they have phases of lovebombing to keep you trying for that good side of things.its a ploy to keep you there.

yess ! I finally got an OP in March against him for me and my children. And some how says I’m delusional that he never put his hands on me. Phew, it’s a process dealing with a manipulative narcissist!

Omg I haven’t noticed anything progressing yet.. I really hope it doesn’t reach those levels!

My ex did this...would get emotional and also kept telling me he loved me and I'd never find anyone better.
He had self confidence issues but soon turned to narcissistic behaviour. Used his temper to scare and control things. Then when I'd leave he'd cry and blackmail me to stay which I did...took me a few attempts but finally broke free

The flag is looking kinda red , dark magenta-ish

Hold off on the marriage until you get a better handle on what’s going on.

in our community

Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this

Going back to work!

Already thinking about this! Told my boss I was pregnant this week at 10 weeks, he was so happy for me. He’s recently became a first time Dad and was showing me pictures of his baby. I told him my plans about going back after 6 months and he looked at me like I was mad, am I!? I absolutely love my job and cannot imagine giving it up, I manage a team and am petrified my position won’t be there if I had a year off. My husband gets 6 months full pay so the plan would be for him to have the last 6 months off and I also made it clear to my boss that I would like to go part time. That way we can hopefully parent together 4/7 days rather than just the weekend! I am such an overthinking! 🤣 but this is what I’m struggling with the most, I’ve worked full time since I was 17 (12 years ago) and the max time I’ve had off in one go is 2 weeks when I got married. I’m sooo excited to be a Mum and we decided now was the right time, which it 100% is! But I feel so on edge about not working! I’m sure once I’m on maternity leave I won’t even think about work! Has anyone else felt the same?

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Is it just me?

I’m 35. I have a 21 month old and i’m 5 months pregnant. I have no friends. Everyone has either drifted away or ghosted me. I don’t know what i’ve done but i’m so lonely now. My best friend of 20 years has ghosted me and i’m heartbroken. I’ve tried to reach out to other friends but never get anywhere. I don’t know how to make new friends. I honestly just feel so alone.