Possessive over unborn baby

I feel like I’m going crazy but I feel so protective over my baby and he isn’t even here yet. I feel like everyone wants to take him away from me, especially my mother in law. I feel like screaming and saying “He’s mine!”. I’ve seen this pattern in my cat with her litter of kittens and how protective she gets, it’s almost as if I know how she feels! I feel like my mother in law would want to act like it’s her baby when he’s mine. I keep thinking about people taking him out of my sight and it kills me. Does anyone else go through this?

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I’m the exact same I’m already thinking I don’t even want ANYONE to hold him unless it’s his dad not his mum not my mum no one 😂 I’m sure I will get over myself but I’m literally obsessed about germs and the thought of someone kissing him or even breathing in his face makes me ill lol x

I feel you! I come from a culture in which as soon as baby is born everyone comes to visit and I’m getting myself so stressed and anxious. Everyone will want to come to the hospital and our home and I just want baby to ourselves those initial few days and weeks (but that’s not going to be the case)! Also stressing how I’m going to establish breastfeeding and our bonding as everyone will just take him. We have big families too. I want baby to meet his relatives and be close to them but I also just want to have baby in my arms 😭😭😭

Yes!!!! You are not the only one. I already hate everyone thinking of them holding my baby. Like I just hate it. Idk what to do. The only people I would be okay with holding the baby is my man and my mother and that’s it. For real. Just the thought of someone else holding the baby is making me go insane.😩😩😩😩

oh no… can’t you just explain you don’t feel comfortable with visitors in the first weeks?… I definitely couldn’t have anyone near so soon 😩

My mother in law said she didn’t like the outfit I picked to take the baby home in so she’s going out to buy one and I feel like pulling her hair and telling her ITS MY BABY. I dress my baby not you!

I remember with my first my sister in law pushing the pram in front of us and went around a corner where they were out of sight for 2 seconds, and I felt a massive panic 😅😅😅

I then asked to push the pram after that ha!

I completely understand this! Mine is always comes back to my housing situation and my baby being taken away from me as an unfit parent which I know I won’t be. I’ve already said until we come home from hospital no one can visit us and only with permission can they come round to see us for the first month at least. I’m ok with the idea of people holding her in my house with me around but beyond that it’s not happening for a while

I feel this, I’m dreading my family coming to visit, my mum is desperate to be here when I go into hospital where I don’t want her around as I don’t want her turning up at the hospital, I just want it to be me and my husband to have a day to bond first
I will be putting rules in place that they can visit the house once home for a short visit then we have the rest of the 4 weeks to bond
My sister will be visiting in that time when she has time off work which I’m feeling more settled about

This!! I’m so glad I’ve seen this because I thought I was being mad/unreasonable! The thought of anyone coming and taking her out of my arms and kissing her or breathing in her face literally makes me squirm. My MIL (who has always wanted a girl herself so badly) has said things like it’s our baby and we have a shared contract for her and it boils my blood but I feel like I can’t say anything because I know she means well. I’m so glad it’s not just me 😂

It’s completely normal. Visitors (it doesn’t matter who they are) should wait or ask permission to be cuddling your child. And if baby starts crying whilst they do have a snug, they should be handing them straight back to mum. Baby has been a part of your body for 9 months 🤍 we’re not having visitors at all for a week + after this little one arrives. I will be having strict rules in place too with regards to hygiene. NO ONE will be kissing my baby at all. My youngest was really poorly after she was born, and the anxiety of that happening again is next level x

Set boundaries and let everyone know what is required of them. They can either go along with it or not see your baby. The beginning of my pregnancy I was extremely anxious, everyone labelling my baby. My grandchild, my nephew, my this my that. I decided I couldn’t and wouldn’t live with that feeling so I let my loved ones know exactly what we want, what myself and my husband had decided on once baby arrives. Until we change our minds it’s not up for discussion. It has actually gone down better than we had expected. Got to be firm with people and let them understand that this is your moment and not theirs

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