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He’s still talking with woman he cheated with

My partner for 6 years has continued a line of communication with the woman he cheated on me with 2 years ago. When I forgave him I said he couldn’t have anymore contact with her. he agreed but on Valentine’s Day this year she was sending him numerous messages. I told him he needs to block her however he said it’s not necessary to block her he has no interest in talking to her and will tell her so next time she contacts. I said please make sure we don’t have to deal with this again. Fast forward a few months later whilst standing next to him whilst he was looking in his phone, I oversaw she sent him a recent message on Snapchat. I was shocked and angry and told him it was unacceptable he admitted she had messaged him a good few times since Valentine’s Day but did not block her because he didn’t think it was was significant. He said the conversation has been very casual however she invites him to parties from time to time. I broke up with him because he failed to respect my boundaries and continue conversation with her even if it was infrequent. I think it is a breach of trust to continue talking to the woman who knew he was in a relationship yet pursued him and as a result our relationship and family was on the brink. Out of respect for our relationship and family I expected him to not have communication. Since breaking up he has acted horribly to me because I broke up with him over something small in his eyes. Was this an overreaction ?

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Nope darling
I went through the same
Happened through out my entire marriage

My ex would constantly talking to the same or new girls, in his eyes it was nothing
I was creating drama for no reason

He would delete it in front of my eyes call me crazy I sent everything to myself every chance I got

Leave him honey I left my ex in Jan and I’m so happy mentally and emotionally I don’t get affected anymore I struggled in the beginning but now it’s me and my son

Nope you reacted how you should. He’s angry because you haven’t allowed him to break your boundaries and keep disrespecting you. You chose to try and move on from him cheating, it’s basic respect for him to make sure she cannot communicate with him and vice Versa. He’s angry because you respect yourself. You’re way better off without someone like that x

He was still very much cheating on you, so no, you didn’t overreact.

My ex has a female "customer" at his car lot who he told me was "fat, ugly, annoying and desprite." They were together while we were together and are still together 5 years later.

Leave, it'll be better for your mental health, trust me.

I am proud of you for respecting yourself and your boundaries ❤️ You saved yourself from future hurt and absolutely done the right thing! X

Omg he’s going to try to flip it in you make it seem like it’s no big deal like wtf blocking her ain’t no big deal soooo why you can’t do that we here in this position because you can be a grown man and block her !!!!!!!!! He forsure feeding into her weird behavior why she bug so much he throwing off big red flags uhhhuhhhhh I can’t deal with a man like that

It definitely wasn’t an overreaction beautiful. He got what he deserved, no respect then ur out of that damn door. He is lucky that u forgave him in the first place for cheating and now he is pushing it by continuing the convo with her. My opinion is to move on there’s better men out there that will respect and love you the way you want and need cuz thats what u deserve.

Nope! She should be DEAD to him if he wants the relationship to heal. I bet he wouldn’t like it if you were talking to an ex.

This isn't an overreaction and him minimizing your feelings about it and saying you broke up with him over "something small" is him showing you he doesn't respect your feelings and doesn't regret what he did (and if he doesn't regret it, why wouldn't he do it again?). I'm not saying you have to break up with him but if you stay with him, you may need to accept that this is who he is and he'll cheat again.

You did the right thing.. he should have been grateful for the 2nd chance you gave him and talking to this women is completely disrespectful to you and then to not block her after you asked him to would have been the final straw for me too.

Hope you find some peace and healing.

You did the right thing hun

Absolutely not over reacting at all! I didn’t even have to read the whole thing and from the title alone I was like, this is absolutely not acceptable. The absolute least he could do is cut ALL COMMUNICATION WITH THIS WOMAN. (I did read the whole post btw)

He is clearly incapable of maintains healthy boundaries of windows and doors with outside people, this woman especially. So no communication should be had. And you should have to continue asking him to set that boundary.

Babe, you know its not an over reaction, so why even doubt yourself. This man is manipulating and violating you, leave him, RUN and never look back! Do yourself a favour.

No you didn’t overreact at all he’s a lier and they’re still talking for sure or he’s leaving her there as a backup plan either way it’s a fucked up way of living. I went thru that exact thing. It ruined our relationship. I never felt first. It sucks

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