Sex is painful 6 months after losing virginity

Try foreplay and lube! Personally I can’t really just do full penetration without some touching before because I’m not wet enough. I love sex but I notice at times I’m
just not getting wet as normal so I use lube. It makes it so much more enjoyable! Good luck!

And by west as normal meaning pre pregnancy

It’s your cervix love. It’s very sensitive so it making sex feel tight and uncomfortable.

Definitely just need more lube it sounds like! Definitely foreplay and DEFINITELY talk to your partner ! Communication in sex is SO important.

we use lube every time and even before sex we do foreplay which gets me wet and excited. When it’s time for the real deal it’s like closed doors in there and end up using lube. But even with lube it’s still super tight and painful like something is blocking it off from going all the way in. He does end up finishing though (usually inside). But for me, I won’t orgasm if he’s inside. I usually finish in other ways when he does stuff from the outside. So weird.

It sounds like it could be vaginismus. Do you have some kind of maybe subconscious anxiety about sex that could be making you tighten up too much? Look into the symptoms of vaginismus to see if it sounds like what you're experiencing; there are lots of different ways to treat it including therapy.

interesting you said that because I was always so scared to lose my virginity which is why I think it took so long after my wedding for him to get it in. Whenever he would put it in I would clench my lower stomach which would prevent it from going in all the way. I even spoke to my mom and told her and she said you have to relax your muscles or you’ll never be able to get it in so I started to slowly relax my stomach and it started going in. I’m better now, but I know it’s about to be painful so I find myself tensing up while he’s putting it in but once he’s in, I relax and try to let it be and enjoy it but it’s like a sharp tearing pain

wow, I just read about it and I’ve never heard of this before but it seems like that’s what I have. I’m actually stunned. Thank you for that. I just don’t know where it would come from, I’ve never had anything traumatizing happen to me but I have been diagnosed with anxiety disorders all my life. Another thing, is I’m even scared to put in tampons or anything that has to enter the vagina. Whenever my doctor gives me an exam I start freaking out ahah so weird.

Statistics show that most women experience more external orgasms than internal so definitely don’t feel weird about finishing up doing outside stuff after. Have you thought about introducing toys? I personally love using my vibrator and it helped me really be able to explore myself to really figure out what exactly I liked and it allowed me to help guide my man more so it make the experience a more pleasureful pain as it took time for things to loosen up. Also, my pelvic floor therapist has advised me to start using a pelvic wand to start massaging the perineum area (area between the vulva and anus) since I have bit of scar tissue there from my first delivery so that it can help soften that area and make this delivery easier and hopefully without tearing. Might be something to look into to help release the tension in that area. Or at least talk to a pelvic floor therapist to ask about any tips they might have

yeah, I usually let him finish by penetration and then he knows that to finish me off he has to take it out and do other stuff. I’ve never tried a vibrator or any toys but it could be a good idea to explore a little bit more. I had no idea there were therapists for this sort of thing also. I def need to look into some of this stuff ahaha thank you.

oh yes, he def knows about the problem, but I won’t tell him take it out it hurts too much because I feel so bad esp that we’re newlyweds lol. But he’s been so patient and understanding with me

I thought that too but this has been going on before pregnancy also so it’s like I have no idea what’s going on :(

I believe there is actually a sex therapist who does podcasts on this app!

I'm not trying to assume anything but it may be as simple as your being nervous, if your nervous and or anticipating it being painful that can make you 'tense', try to find ways during foreplay to relax and enjoy yourself there and you'll be more relaxed going into that, pregnancy also DOES make things more intense because of the excess blood flow so it could get a little easier after baby, but nothing is wrong with you and you should talk to your hubby about it, open communication about sex is really important to make sure you are both having a good time which is important for your marriage in the long run

You should bring this up with your OB

Just from my own personal experience and maybe because you just recently started having sex, you’re not entirely comfortable. And I don’t mean your hubby makes you uncomfortable but sometimes as women we are so caught up in our head “is he enjoying it” “am I vocal enough” “do I look/sound weird” and sometimes it can prevent being relaxed in the moment. This was actually me until I got pregnant! So maybe like Makayla said talk talk talk to your hubby just in case!

They have doctors that specialize in this. I have a friend who was worried about it and went to the doctor and she had special exercises and they have been married for like a year and can finally have sex. It's not completely unusual.