Do you ask your men if they wank and if so how do you ask?

I'm not sure I understand the question...

Sorry 🤣😅 I corrected it now

Are you living together? I pretty much just know. But then again I'm quick to be like "you know what, we both need a release and I can't stand your ass today. Let's just go rub one out separately so we can get on about our day"
He'll usually be like "noooo 😭 I want your orgasm to come from meeeeee 😭" but regardless we pretty know when each other is about to go rub 1 out. But we're on the same sleep schedule in a small house. So this might apply to you if that's not the case.

Ofcourse they do it, and you don't need to ask, it is OK to keep some things private

We’ve talked about it before but I didn’t come out and ask how often. It originally stemmed from a conversation about porn I think. Most recently it came up when I was talking about someone’s post about her partner having a porn addiction. We talked about at what point it would be considered an addiction and he compared his own habits for reference.

I only asked once as I was like when you fall asleep downstairs where are you wanking like just don't want it on the sofa 🤣🤣🤣🤣 but I know he wanks he knows I do I get sad if he won't send me pictures sometimes 🤣 but overall I know it's going on and I don't care he can do it as much as he likes in his free time but it doesn't interfere with day to day help with chores and the kids in my house anyways

Why does it matter?

Most guys do it, I just let them be. We're all entitled to some privacy.