My boyfriends parents were pissed when we told them we’re having another baby

I feel so crushed. Why tf can’t people just be happy for you!!!!

I had my son when I was 19 and my partner was 23 my son has everything and NEVER goes without EVER


Anyway today we told them we are expecting our second baby (2 year age gap) and they said nothing, rolled their eyes and then said I won’t cope because my sister in law struggles with 2 kids so so will I. Like just say congratulations and move the fuck on…..?

My MIL was 17 when she had her first baby so I’m so confused why she’s judges me!!!??? I would assume she be supportive as she knows what being a young parents like… but she’s totally the opposite!!!

Why the hell are they judging and being so negative??? We have our own flat, we’ve been together for 3.5 years, my boyfriends a full time estate agent and about to become manager of his branch. Our pregnancy was planned and we are genuinely so excited but today I felt so upset and trodden down by my boyfriends parents.

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I am sorry that was the reaction... sending my congratulations and wishes of all the happiness for your growing family! ❤️

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They better keep that same energy when it’s time to deliver and the baby is here. Don’t wanna here nothing about “why can’t we see the baby” 😒😒 stay over there with that!!

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Im so sorry they sound f ing miserable don’t let them dampen your mood! CONGRATULATIONS this is great news! Also you sound a lot more stable than me n I’m 31 so well done you two x

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The family you create will always take priority over the family you come from ❤️
Congratulations 🎉🥳🥰

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Honestly you don't need to justify your decision to have a second baby. You do you🙌🏽 it's no one else's business but yours and your bf x

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sis if your happy that’s all that matters my mom was the same way with my son and now this pregnancy. you can’t let other peoples feelings control your life

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My husband said something about continuing his legacy and his mom said “[child] should complete your legacy.” Like we are planning on having another kid, why does she have an issue with us having another kid????

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Firstly, congratulations girl 💃🏻 second, ugh honestly don’t worry about them. All you have to care about is your happiness and your own family’s! You live in your own place not in theirs so their opinion doesn’t matter. Let them think whatever and then show them what you’re made of 💪🏻

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Because you’re probably doing far better for yourselves than she was at that age in the same situation!

Fuck ‘em! Don’t let their bitterness ruin your happiness

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Maybe she’s not happy because things are going better in your life than hers and she’s bitter and jealous. It’s an ugly look on people but one people wear very often. Congratulations to you both!! Don’t let anyone ruin your special moments and enjoy it even if others don’t!

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I'm sorry. Mom's should not judge and just support. It's hard enough already

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I'm sorry about that🙁
Congratulations on the pregnancy

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I’m so happy for you!! Sod them honestly. Some people just can’t be happy for others in life. I can’t even bring the topic up of having another baby in front of my mum or she rolls her eyes and tells me to appreciate what I already have… Like I don’t already😂 I try and keep things to myself now and only tell them what I have to because I’m sick of the negatively. Sounds like you’re kind of the same. Good luck with your pregnancy! It sounds like your little family is absolutely perfect so just remember that♥️♥️♥️

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Congratulations lovely! Leave that negativity behind and just focus on your own awesome family x

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I’m so sorry to hear this hun. Congrats on your news - don’t let them dampen your spirits and do remember this day when they’re asking to see the new baby!!

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My mother in law wasn’t happy about our pregnancy either. When we told her, she asked: “are you going to keep it then?”
Just to mention, we were both working full and were 30 and 29 years old at that time.

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That’s a bummer, I’m sorry you had to experience that from them. Just keep reminding yourself you guys PLANNED this pregnancy so embrace the gift you guys worked for. Personally, I would take some time away from them in all communication forms and maybe let them think about the affect their actions made.

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Probably because he's still only your boyfriend

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I don’t understand why people are like this! Congratulations I think it’s amazing growing your little family ❤️

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My mum & I stopped talking because I told her at 12 weeks (which is when we told everyone else) instead of earlier. She was also mad that she got told over text (as did everyone else) because - and i quote - “ i am your mum, not one of your friends”. She called me, yelling, i hung up, then she called hubby who obvs didnt answer. We havent spoken in almost 3 months. Basically - sod her, its her loss and will also be your bf’s parents if they dont get it together sharpish! 💖

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