Reminiscing *Possible TW?*

This time last year, my husband and I were homeless. We were scraping by to buy a house, hotel surfing at sketchy places because they were cheap. At one point, we almost ended up living in our car. I was 6 months pregnant. After we finally got the house, I was freaking out that we’d lose it and I’d lose my baby, that he’d be taken away from me. We barely had help and we’re lucky when we could afford a hot meal instead of pb&j. Now, I have a more financially stable job and I’m pregnant again. And I’m terrified again. My son was born a month early, he had horrible jaundice and just kept losing weight. For the first month and a half of his life, we were in and out of the doctor’s office twice a week. We are in a better place financially, but I’m terrified that something will happen, we’ll lose the house and end up in a hotel again or our car. Don’t get me wrong, I’m excited for this baby, but this time of year is really, really tough on me now. I don’t know how to talk to my husband about this and I don’t feel like I can talk to my family (since they’re part of the reason we were in hotels). How do I get over this?

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Re-evaluate your situation, it’s easy to blame family for things that goes on in our life’s. Once you became married you & your husband became 1 & he became the provider over your family. Not saying you aren’t suppose to work, because sometimes it takes two. Life is about choices & sometimes we make the wrong choices that takes us down the wrong road. There are resources out their like family shelters until you get back on your feet. Speaking from experience I was once in your shoes with 3 children & realized I was in that situation because of my kids father. ( But Still because of the choice I made to stay) I went to a family shelter just the kids & I . It changed my life within 6 months. Became a supervisor at a hospital, got an apartment in a newly built apartment complex by, purchase me a new car ect. Sometimes it is the company that we keep. sometimes, when God have us on a certain journey everyone ain’t meant to travel alone w/ us !!When you figure it out . Choices❤️❤️

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I am fuuuuming. Livid. Hubby went out to the pub last night, not a problem, you deserve it after a long week at work.

We have a baby and toddler.. so I said, sleep in the other room, take our toddlers monitor, as I don’t want you to disturb the baby.

I wake up to my toddler screaming, WITH HIM SLEEPING THROUGH IT!!!! When I checked her camera she was crying for 8 minutes. She has been awake over an hour now because she fully woke herself up crying so much. Her words: ‘daddy didn’t come’

Needed a space to rant before I actually go and bop him on the bloody nose😡😡😡😡

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