ADVICE PLEASE?!

Hi, please don’t be ignorant with the judgement without reading everything. My bf and I have been together for two years and he likes me pegging him (I’ve only done it once in the beginning of our relationship and I started doing it again this year but it only happened three times all together) lately I’ve been feeling uncomfortable. Last night after pegging him, I can’t help but feel as if he’s gay or bi. Yesterday morning we had a talk about how during sex he’s always bring in the fact that if we were to bring a man in and both suck him together he would cum. I told him that, it’s all he’s been talking about and we shouldn’t need to bring someone else in our sex life to feel satisfied. He said okay he understand, he would never do it, it just turns him on in the moment but afterwards he feels like shit for even thinking about it. After that talk I thought that would be it…. Well last night as we were playing video games, he asked me to put the strap-on on, so I did. He mentioned how much he loved it etc. fast forward he got on his knees and started sucking me off (I don’t know what he gains from it). He kept making himself choke on it, I honestly felt so uncomfortable but anything for my man I guess… fast forward we’re on the bed and I am fucking him doggy, he was enjoying it but we switched to missionary and I couldn’t look him in the eyes cause I was uncomfortable with the whole thing. He kept asking me to talk to him dirty but I just wasn’t feeling it, so I asked him if he enjoyed it 🥲, he said he did and he told me that I was basically stretching his ass for the real thing, he said he wanted the real thing in his butt after we had a talk yesterday morning about us not having that kind of talk while having sex….is he gay? Or bi? I don’t think I’ll be able to fully satisfy his needs, him sucking me off and saying he wants to suck a dick with me just throws me off… he claims he’s not gay though. Anyways thoughts and advice?

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So I’ve been in a situation VERY similar to this, only difference was I used a dildo and not a strap on. My partner at the time said the same thing that he wasn’t bi or gay but clearly had an interest. I was accepting of it in the beginning but then it became too much at the end. He always wanted to role play and not have regular sex/love making. It was always about another man and not just us. So I sat him down and told him he needs to make a decision it’s either he goes and explore that side of him or we need to part ways because my needs aren’t being met since his needs are taking over our relationship. We agreed we should take a break and now I’m happily married with someone else and he’s married with a man and I’m so happy for him. I think you should have another conversation with him and let him know how you feel and how he bypassed your conversation earlier. Let him know that you love him and accepting of his sexuality but you feel like your needs aren’t being met either.

If he can’t stop fantasizing about that EVERYTIME you guys make love, then I think you guys should take a break at least from sex and have him figure out what’s going on with him

Ohhh WoW! This guy seems a little confused. 😳

I think you need to let him go. It’s obvious he’s way more into the pegging and thought of being with a man and isn’t strong enough to tell you or maybe even admit it to himself. But by staying in the relationship you’re just not letting yourself or him be fully happy. Be the stronger person and end it.

Only he can really decide whether he’s gay or bi, but he’s clearly experiencing some bisexual fantasies. It also sounds like he might be dealing with some internalised homophobia, which is making it hard for him to be honest with you and with himself. If you’re not 100% comfortable with the things he’s asking you to do, you need to tell him. Anything you do in bed requires the enthusiastic consent of both parties. In truth, this might end up being a dealbreaker for your relationship. Some people might be open to helping him exploring his sexuality. But if you’re not one of them, that’s okay. Just be honest with him.

I think you should trust your instinct and what your gut is telling, no matter how painful it is as you love him.

He’s bisexual for sure. He probably just isn’t aware/ hasn’t experienced his sexuality full on so he probably is having trouble with identifying himself. But technically if he is able to be turned on sexually with anything in the male degree. Than yeah, he’s bi-sexual 100%. I wouldn’t say he’s gay though. If he still gets turned on with you

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